{"id":66,"date":"2010-10-07T07:00:23","date_gmt":"2010-10-07T07:00:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/movingbeyondaddiction\/2010\/10\/the-negativity-addiction.html"},"modified":"2010-10-07T07:00:23","modified_gmt":"2010-10-07T07:00:23","slug":"the-negativity-addiction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thecelebritytherapist\/2010\/10\/the-negativity-addiction.html","title":{"rendered":"The Negativity Addiction"},"content":{"rendered":"

Negative thinking is addictive. Once you start to believe the negative things you tell yourself, it’s as if you’re caught up in a powerful whirlpool and you can’t break free. “I won’t get a better job.” “I can’t make new friends.” “I can’t learn a new skill.” “Good things never happen to me.” When you believe this, you’re defeated before you ever start anything. And of course, then you never start anything anyway–why bother, because you’ll just be defeated? <\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n

            <\/span>Negative thinking can be comforting in a strange way, too. That’s because it enables you to avoid taking any responsibility for your life. If you’re the person bad things always happen to, you don’t have to even try to make good things happen. You’re off the hook.<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n

            <\/span>The Law of Sobriety says whatever you resonate, the universe sends back to you. In other words, your thoughts become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Radiate negativity and nothing good will come to you. Your own negativity brings you exactly what you don’t <\/i>want.<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n

            <\/span>Fortunately, the opposite is also true. When you believe good things will come to you, that’s what will happen. It will happen because positive energy attracts positive results. But it will also happen because you’ll stop asking the world, “When am I going to get mine?” and start looking around at what you’ve already got. Appreciating what you have changes everything–not just your outlook, but your reality. Your world is richer and more satisfying. That happens right away, as soon as you break out of the negativity addiction.<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n

            <\/span>Take a moment to stop and do a little inventory. What did you see and hear and smell today that makes you happy? Was it a kid walking her dog? Was it a snippet of a song you like? Was it the smell of fresh-roasted coffee? Appreciate the little things and the big things will come. <\/font><\/font><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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