{"id":499,"date":"2011-07-08T13:15:01","date_gmt":"2011-07-08T17:15:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thecelebritytherapist\/?p=499"},"modified":"2011-07-08T13:15:01","modified_gmt":"2011-07-08T17:15:01","slug":"who-needs-forgiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thecelebritytherapist\/2011\/07\/who-needs-forgiveness.html","title":{"rendered":"Who Needs Forgiveness?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sherry Gaba <\/strong>LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of \u201cThe Law of Sobriety\u201d<\/a> which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your copy of \u201cManifest Holistic Health<\/a>\u201d from Sherry\u2019s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at sherry@sgabatherapy.com<\/a> for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a><\/strong>A friend of mine recently celebrated her 70th birthday, and her family threw her a really nice party. Her son, who is a professional chef, cooked an amazing dinner at his home. All her children and grandchildren were there to celebrate with her. And they all chipped in to buy her an ergonomically designed desk chair for her computer desk.<\/p>\n

When she told me about it, she sounded really happy\u2014until she got to the part about the chair. \u201cThat was a really thoughtful choice, because I have a bad back,\u201d she said. \u201cI made sure to tell them how much I liked it . . . not like my mother. She never liked anything we ever gave her. She\u2019d always say, \u2018This is nice, but,<\/em>\u2019 and she always<\/em> had a \u2018but.\u2019 Nothing we gave her was ever good enough for her.\u201d There was so much anger and bitterness and pain in her voice.<\/p>\n

I reminded her of what a great party she\u2019d just had, and asked her why she wanted to let all that negativity ruin such a nice experience. Her mother died 15 years ago. Why was she focusing on something that hurt her so long ago and letting it suck away the joy from what was happening right now?<\/p>\n

So, who needs forgiveness? You do! That reservoir of hurt and anger and resentment is crowding out your joy. The only way to bust the dam is with forgiveness. If my friend could only forgive her mother, she wouldn\u2019t be filled with bitter memories at even the most happy times of her life.<\/p>\n

Forgiveness isn\u2019t easy; your hurt is genuine and your anger is justified. But in the end, forgiveness is the only thing that will heal you. It\u2019s the only way pure joy can come into your life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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