{"id":1124,"date":"2017-01-02T15:56:45","date_gmt":"2017-01-02T20:56:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thecelebritytherapist\/?p=1124"},"modified":"2017-01-02T15:56:45","modified_gmt":"2017-01-02T20:56:45","slug":"detaching-with-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thecelebritytherapist\/2017\/01\/detaching-with-love.html","title":{"rendered":"Detaching With Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-1125\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/243\/2017\/01\/detaching-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"detaching\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" \/>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0We all have people we are attached to.\u00a0 Some attachments are different than others &#8211; for instance, the attachment to our parents will be different than the attachment to our friends or partners.\u00a0 As love addicts and codependents, however, we often find ourselves too attached to someone.\u00a0 We can\u2019t get over our last relationship, and we cannot let go.\u00a0 Think about who that person could be or has been for you.\u00a0 Did you get over them, or are you still trying to?\u00a0 Now think about what is keeping you from letting go.\u00a0 Often, we are so loyal to someone that it ends up hurting us.\u00a0 Can you think of someone that you may have been overly loyal to?\u00a0 With the right tools, you can detach with love, too.<\/p>\n<p>So what does it mean to detach with love?\u00a0 It means being able to take care of yourself before taking care of anyone else.\u00a0 It means letting go of people, places, and things.\u00a0 We don\u2019t have to give something up entirely, though sometimes that can be the most loving choice for yourself.\u00a0 Detaching with love is about doing what you can to take care of yourself in the most lovable, respectable manner.\u00a0 It\u2019s okay to let go, and to allow them to live their lives the way they see fit.\u00a0 Think back to the people you chose.\u00a0 Is there someone you need to detach with love from?<\/p>\n<p>It can be tricky to discuss detaching with love, because there is no physical representation that we can hold in our hands, or explain the directions to.\u00a0 This is one that we have to give to our higher power.\u00a0 Our higher powers will guide us to the best route to take with whoever or whatever it is we need to detach from.\u00a0 We can ask our higher power to help us detach with love, and to give us the strength and the courage to carry it out.\u00a0 Go ahead and ask your higher power for help now.\u00a0 The answer will come to you, but it is up to you to take action.\u00a0 Maybe you need to text your kids less during the workday, or maybe you need to cut ties to an ex to get over them.\u00a0 Whatever it is you need to do to take care of yourself, remember that it is okay to let go, and focus on yourself first. 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