{"id":1099,"date":"2016-10-19T16:27:37","date_gmt":"2016-10-19T20:27:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thecelebritytherapist\/?p=1099"},"modified":"2016-10-19T16:27:37","modified_gmt":"2016-10-19T20:27:37","slug":"dating-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thecelebritytherapist\/2016\/10\/dating-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"Dating Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"date\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Over the past three years, I\u2019ve done a lot of soul-searching in my recovery from codependence.\u00a0 I did not have my own identity, and I didn\u2019t even know what things I really liked to do, watch, or listen to.\u00a0 I\u2019d like you to ask yourself when was the last time that you did something completely for yourself.\u00a0 What did you do?\u00a0 What do you remember the best about it?\u00a0 I know for me, it had been almost my entire life that I did things for others and not for myself.<\/p>\n

Doing things for ourselves and having our own identities is so important to our health and well-being.\u00a0 When I started recovery and learned about these things, I didn\u2019t know how to go about finding out who I was or the things that I liked.\u00a0 A recovery friend told me about the idea of dating myself, and I knew that it was something I could do to find out a little more about myself, and I hope you can too.<\/p>\n

Part of finding out who we are involves a lot of guess and check.\u00a0 We don\u2019t know if we like or dislike an activity until we try it.\u00a0 We can take a guess, but now we want to KNOW.\u00a0 I\u2019d like you to take a moment to write down a few things about yourself.\u00a0 What do you know you like, and what do you know you dislike?\u00a0 After that, I\u2019d like you to write down a few things that you are unsure of doing.\u00a0 Is there something you would be willing to try?\u00a0 If so, go for it!\u00a0 Keep adding to this list when you think of things.<\/p>\n

Another important part of dating yourself is being kind to yourself.\u00a0 Think about how you would treat someone you liked that you were on a date with.\u00a0 You would probably be your kindest self, asking thoughtful questions and perhaps even complimentary.\u00a0 This is the way you should be treating yourself!<\/p>\n

Treat yourself to dates by yourself (or even invite a friend!) when you\u2019ve had a hard day.\u00a0 You don\u2019t have to always do something new!\u00a0 Sometimes we need our tried and true methods of relaxation, and that is absolutely okay.\u00a0 Dating yourself is about taking care of yourself and getting to know yourself!<\/p>\n

Tips:<\/p>\n

1-Do new things you wouldn\u2019t normally try, and make note of the things you would be willing to do again.<\/p>\n

2-Be kind to yourself, much like you would a close friend.<\/p>\n

3-Treat yourself to dates by yourself<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/em>Sherry Gaba, LCSW, Radio Host, Certified Transformation Coach and author of\u00a0 the award winning book, The Law of Sobriety:Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery and Ecourse www.wakeuprecovery.com. www.sherrygaba.com <\/em>sherry@sgabatherapy.com<\/em><\/a>.\u00a0 Find out if you are #codependent. Take my quiz.\u00a0 <\/em>http:\/\/sherrygaba.com\/co-dependency-quiz\/<\/em><\/a> 30 minute strategy session with Sherry http:\/\/sherrygaba.com\/product\/30-minute-strategy-session-sherry-gaba\/<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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