![\"Dahlia_'White_Perfection'_1\"](\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/243\/2016\/07\/Dahlia_White_Perfection_1-300x225.jpg\")
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Hello all!\u00a0 Today I want to talk about the topic of perfection.\u00a0 As codependents and love addicts, we have striven for perfection constantly, only to be disappointed when our expectations were not met.\u00a0 Whether it was someone else we were trying to impress or just ourselves, we were hard on ourselves for not executing it perfectly.<\/p>\n
We don\u2019t have to be hard on ourselves.\u00a0 Nobody in this world is perfect!\u00a0 We seem to hear that from people all the time, but the struggle is in understanding and really believing it.<\/p>\n
We look at other peoples\u2019 lives, especially with social media, and they seem to have it all – jobs, families, houses, vacations, and happiness.\u00a0 But there is so much of peoples\u2019 lives that we do not see, and each person has their struggles.\u00a0 Truly, nobody is perfect.<\/p>\n
But oh how we wanted to be.\u00a0 If we were perfect, our parents would love us right, or boyfriend would be our husband, and we would get that promotion we dream about.\u00a0 But our perfectionism hinders us more than it helps us.\u00a0 We focus too much of our energy into trying to please others and be the perfect person that we lose ourselves.\u00a0 We don\u2019t do what we want, or what may even be good for us, because there is a chance that we can be the perfect person and that will solve our problems.\u00a0 When we fail at being perfect – not because we are failures at all, but simply because nobody can be perfect, we are ashamed of ourselves.\u00a0 We feel guilty, and we tell ourselves that next time we\u2019ll be more perfect, an antagonize over minute details rather than the bigger picture.<\/p>\n
Our worth is not defined by how perfect we are, as we have been led to believe.\u00a0 No matter what, we are worthy, and if there is someone that expects perfection in return for their presence in your life, they are not the right person for you, and that is okay.\u00a0 We are imperfect.\u00a0 It makes us human,\u00a0 It allows us to empathize and have compassion for others, and when we share our imperfections with others, we are courageous and it creates connections with others.\u00a0 We don\u2019t have to be perfect.\u00a0 Nobody is.<\/p>\n
Sherry Gaba, LCSW, Radio Host, Certified Transformation Coach and author of\u00a0 the award winning book, The Law of Sobriety:Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery and Ecourse www.wakeuprecovery.com. www.sherrygaba.com sherry@sgabatherapy.com<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Hello all!\u00a0 Today I want to talk about the topic of perfection.\u00a0 As codependents and love addicts, we have striven for perfection constantly, only to be disappointed when our expectations were not met.\u00a0 Whether it was someone else we were trying to impress or just ourselves, we were hard on ourselves for not executing…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":402,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4,5,6,8,9,10,11,12,147,13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1065","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-12-steps","category-aa","category-addiction","category-agoura-psychotherapist-westlake-village-psychotherapist-calabasas-psychotherapist-malibu-psychoth","category-celebrity-addiction","category-celebrity-news","category-celebrity-rehab","category-law-of-attraction","category-law-of-sobriety","category-love-addiction","category-mental-health"],"yoast_head":"\n