![\"intimacy\"](\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/243\/2016\/06\/intimacy.jpg\")
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Hi everyone!\u00a0 Today i want to cover the topic of intimacy, something vital to each of our lives, and a topic that is a big part of love addiction and codependency.<\/p>\n
A lot of us have found that in relationships, we have lost ourselves, and a big struggle is trying to rebuild our behavior patterns in relationships so that we can have healthy relationships where that doesn\u2019t happen.\u00a0 We have also found that the people we choose to be intimate with are unavailable to us emotionally, or maybe we have even found someone to be intimate with, but we push them away and sabotage our relationships.\u00a0 Intimacy can be scary!<\/p>\n
Growing up, intimacy was not modeled for us properly.\u00a0 Many of us are working on issues like love addiction and codependency because we grew up in a dysfunctional home of some kind, but the good news is we don\u2019t have to keep those lessons we learned.\u00a0 We can learn a new way to interact with intimacy in our lives, one that is rewarding and allows real connections to be created.<\/p>\n
What we\u2019ve seen so far has been nerve-wracking: watching our parents stumble through similar relationships to us told us that intimacy wasn\u2019t worth it, or that being super intimate with someone was the only way to live life.\u00a0 But there is a balance, one that we didn\u2019t see.\u00a0 Instead, we either latch onto someone, holding on for dear life, trying to be the perfect person for them, or we shove someone away, telling ourselves that we don\u2019t care about the relationship because they are too this or too that.\u00a0 We don\u2019t have to do that!<\/p>\n
When we start setting boundaries for ourselves in terms of intimacy, we can see the way healthy intimacy can work in relationships.\u00a0 We don\u2019t have to sleep with someone we just met because that is how we\u2019ve always done it, and we don\u2019t have to share our entire life with someone in one night.\u00a0 We can make boundaries with ourselves to take intimacy in relationships one step at a time, rather than taking the full plunge, or not entering the contest at all.<\/p>\n
As humans, we crave social interactions and intimacy.\u00a0 It is such an important part of who we are and what it means to be human, but we can try to let people into our lives even though we are scared.\u00a0 We can take it at our own pace, and nobody else\u2019s.\u00a0 The more you practice healthy intimacy, the more positive results you will see, and you will be encouraged to create more positive, healthy relationships.<\/p>\n
Sherry Gaba, LCSW, Radio Host, Certified Transformation Coach and author of\u00a0 the award winning book, The Law of Sobriety:Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery and Ecourse www.wakeuprecovery.com<\/a>. www.sherrygaba.com<\/a> sherry@sgabatherapy.com<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Hi everyone!\u00a0 Today i want to cover the topic of intimacy, something vital to each of our lives, and a topic that is a big part of love addiction and codependency. A lot of us have found that in relationships, we have lost ourselves, and a big struggle is trying to rebuild our behavior…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":402,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4,5,6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1051","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-12-steps","category-aa","category-addiction","category-agoura-psychotherapist-westlake-village-psychotherapist-calabasas-psychotherapist-malibu-psychoth"],"yoast_head":"\n