![\"abandoment\"](\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/243\/2016\/06\/abandoment.jpg\")
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Hi guys.\u00a0 Today I want to talk a little bit about the topic of letting go of our fears of abandonment.\u00a0 I think it\u2019s a really important subject when delving into love addiction and co-dependency, and fear of abandonment is one of the main things that prevents people from getting out of unhealthy relationships.<\/p>\n
The idea of being abandoned is scary.\u00a0 Nobody wants to be left alone to fend for themselves.\u00a0 As humans, we are social creatures, and having other people and even animals in our lives is comforting and part of being human.\u00a0 The issue then, is when our fear of being alone – a reasonable fear – becomes so deep that it prevents us from being independent.\u00a0 We can be independent people without having to give up healthy relationships.\u00a0 What we have to strive for there is balance.<\/p>\n
Those of us that do have major fears of abandonment have a reason to be afraid – we were left alone as children, or left alone at many other times in our lives.\u00a0 We have felt the pain of people leaving, and the pain of wondering what we did to make them leave.\u00a0 It is only natural for us to want to hold on tight when we find something or someone we love.<\/p>\n
We have also found at times that we have felt abandoned by our higher power.\u00a0 Things were not working in our favor, and the pain was so great, that we did not honestly believe our higher power was there.\u00a0 We were so caught up in chaos, that we blamed our higher power for not taking care of us.<\/p>\n
There is good news in all of this: we don\u2019t have to feel this way.\u00a0 We can be independent people that stick up for ourselves, and strive to have a good relationship with ourselves and our higher power.\u00a0 We can work hard to make sure that we can take care of ourselves, and know that we don\u2019t have to rely on anyone else to take care of us.\u00a0 We can remember that our higher power was always there, we just had too much chaos in our lives to hear their guidance.\u00a0 We can understand that moving forward, and letting go with love of others and of circumstances are a part of life, and we will have feelings about it, but our world will not end.\u00a0 If we become our own best friend, and let our higher power become our best friend, we can always have a best friend there for us when we feel alone.\u00a0 Allow yourself to let loving people be a part of your life, because the more you push past the fear and step out of your comfort zone, the more you will grow, and the more you will see that there is another way to live life – one not filled with fear.<\/p>\n
Sherry Gaba, LCSW, Radio Host, Certified Transformation Coach and author of\u00a0 the award winning book, The Law of Sobriety:Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery and Ecourse www.wakeuprecovery.com. www.sherrygaba.com sherry@sgabatherapy.com<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Hi guys.\u00a0 Today I want to talk a little bit about the topic of letting go of our fears of abandonment.\u00a0 I think it\u2019s a really important subject when delving into love addiction and co-dependency, and fear of abandonment is one of the main things that prevents people from getting out of unhealthy relationships.…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":402,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1046","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-12-steps","category-aa","category-addiction"],"yoast_head":"\n