{"id":131,"date":"2011-06-08T00:26:35","date_gmt":"2011-06-08T04:26:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/sweetshore\/?p=131"},"modified":"2011-06-08T00:26:35","modified_gmt":"2011-06-08T04:26:35","slug":"adultery-or-not-adultery-that-is-the-question","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/sweetshore\/2011\/06\/adultery-or-not-adultery-that-is-the-question.html","title":{"rendered":"Adultery or Not Adultery…that is the question"},"content":{"rendered":"

….After denying it for days, Rep Anthony Weiner (D)\u00a0of New York\u00a0has admitted sending lewd pictures of himself to women on \u00a0Twitter. But he\u2019s refusing to resign, as he says he did something \u201cregrettable,\u201d not illegal. (Peter Grier, Christian Science Monitor)<\/em><\/p>\n

Now, I don’t know about you, but…this sounds all too familiar, doesn’t it? \u00a0Yet another prominent person (politician, clergyman, athlete) holding forth his innocence for days before finally giving in and admitting guilt–usually less \u00a0than he is actually guilty of–until that too is stripped away (if you’ll pardon the expression). \u00a0It’s the same pattern, over and over–why do we act surprised? \u00a0Why do we always say, “Well, maybe he didn’t do it…maybe someone really is <\/strong>out to get him…” \u00a0Haven’t we seen this too many times to keep falling for it?<\/p>\n

If I seem cynical, it’s based on life experience…I have personally known and advised women and been in marriage support groups where this comes out and so it really hits home with me.<\/p>\n

I’m curious, though…on several news programs and radio talk shows today, I heard the same question: \u00a0“Well, it’s not the same as being unfaithful, is it?” \u00a0“I mean, it’s not as if he actually cheated on his wife or anything…just sent some lewd photos on the internet…” \u00a0“Every man out there gets this–it’s not committing adultery.”<\/p>\n

Well…what do you think? \u00a0I can’t figure out how to do it or I’d post a survey asking the following question from men and women: \u00a0Is engaging in sexual activity with someone on the internet a breach of your marital vows?<\/p>\n

I’d love to see some of your opinions in the comments. \u00a0Let’s have a discussion about it and then I’ll draw some of my own conclusions (which I get to do since I’m the blogger).<\/p>\n

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