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Valerie Bertinelli, who recently began a new role on \u201cThe Drew Barrymore Show\u201d as a lifestyle expert, is navigating her feelings about marriage and shame after two divorces. While discussing the possibility of remarrying on the show’s Drew’s News segment, Bertinelli shared her thoughts following a conversation about Kaley Cuoco’s engagement to Tom Pelphrey.<\/p>\n

Both Bertinelli and Barrymore, who have experienced their own challenges in relationships, delved into the topic of divorce and its emotional aftermath. Barrymore’s comment, \u201cWhen you get a divorce, it’s so shameful,\u201d struck a chord with Bertinelli. She admitted that the fear of shame is a significant deterrent for her when considering another marriage. However, she acknowledged that love might change that perspective, saying, \u201cIf you’re in love\u2026Good for her,\u201d regarding Cuoco’s engagement. She also added, \u201cIf I’ve learned anything at this age, it’s never say never.\u201d<\/p>\n

Bertinelli opened up about the deep-seated shame she has felt from her divorces, first from Eddie Van Halen, with whom she separated in 2001 after marrying in 1981, and officially divorced in 2007. Her second marriage to Tom Vitale ended in 2021, with the divorce finalized a year later. She reflected, \u201cI’ve been married twice and that shame thing \u2026 that slapped me in the face.\u201d<\/p>\n

She emphasized the importance of releasing shame to find self-worth and beauty, stating, \u201cI think the key to feeling beautiful and feeling like you’re worthy and feeling like you are enough is to release a lot of that shame.\u201d Bertinelli also distinguished between constructive and destructive shame, noting that the latter leads to self-loathing.<\/p>\n

In her journey of self-discovery and healing, Bertinelli is focusing on doing what feels right for her, as long as it harms no one. She encouraged others to do the same: \u201cDo what you wanna do. Do what feels good \u2026 As long as you’re not hurting anybody, do what you want to do.\u201d<\/p>\n

Currently, Bertinelli is dating writer Mike Goodnough, embracing her own advice as she navigates her personal life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Valerie Bertinelli, who recently began a new role on \u201cThe Drew Barrymore Show\u201d as a lifestyle expert, is navigating her feelings about marriage and shame after two divorces. While discussing the possibility of remarrying on the show’s Drew’s News segment, Bertinelli shared her thoughts following a conversation about Kaley Cuoco’s engagement to Tom Pelphrey. 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