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One of marriage\u2019s longest traditions is the practice of men asking a father\u2019s permission to marry their daughters. However, are today\u2019s young men still talking with dads before popping the question, or has the practice become outdated?<\/p>\n

In discussions with young adults about marriage, several agreed that asking for their partner\u2019s hand in marriage was a given. Kyle Pender, a New Jersey resident, proposed to his girlfriend a few days before his interview with Fox News Digital. He said, \u201cMy girlfriend comes from a very traditional Italian upbringing. So even if she weren\u2019t from that upbringing, I still would have done it.\u201d<\/p>\n

Pender continued, \u201cI think it\u2019s more of a respect thing. Not like, \u2018Oh, it\u2019s tradition, you have to do it.\u2019 I think it\u2019s just more respectful if you\u2019re close with your fianc\u00e9 or partner\u2019s family. It\u2019s a good thing to do and just to make sure that everyone\u2019s on board with the next steps.\u201d Pender credited his upbringing as having guided his current views on the subject. He said, \u201cI grew up\u2026 my parents taught me to be very respectful. I was always around my mom and my dad. So I had both of them to kind of look at. And they had a good marriage, and that\u2019s what my dad did. So I just want to emulate that.\u201d<\/p>\n

Alivia Grace Talley, vice president of the Network of Enlightened Women chapter at Clemson University, helped share the female perspective.\u00a0 She told Fox News Digital, \u201cAs a 21-year-old woman who just recently got married, I believe that it shows respect and honor to a father by a man asking for his permission to marry his daughter. I believe it\u2019s a sign of integrity and maturity.\u201d<\/p>\n

Kim Forrest, senior editor at The Knot, said their recent studies have shown the tradition of asking fathers for permission continues to be \u201cpopular and relevant.\u201d She pointed to The Knot 2022 Real Weddings Study<\/a>, which found that 71 percent of surveyed individuals asked their partner\u2019s parent or parents for permission before proposing.\u00a0She suggested, \u201cIf your partner comes from a traditional family that anticipates a discussion about your proposal plans, seeking their blessing might be important to prevent any hurt feelings. Similarly, if you share a close bond with their family, involving them might hold significance to you.\u201d<\/p>\n

However, Forrest also pointed to evolving traditions. She told Fox News Digital, \u201cHowever, it can look a little different these days,\u201d Forrest told Fox Digital. \u201cToday, it\u2019s not uncommon for the groom to seek the mother\u2019s or even a stepparent\u2019s blessing, and\u00a0it\u2019s also not unheard of for the bride to be the one seeking permission to marry. We\u2019re also finding that marriers are moving away from \u2018asking for permission,\u2019 and rather stating their intention to marry to parents and family members.\u201d<\/p>\n

She continued, \u201cModern couples don\u2019t necessarily need parents\u2019 permission to wed, but they do want to include their families in the process. Sharing the intention to marry with your future in-laws before the proposal will be a special moment for them and give them a sense of involvement.\u201d She said data from The Knot also showed the majority of young adults still regard marriage “as a significant life event that they eagerly look forward to.”<\/p>\n

In their recent Future of Marriage survey, they found that 81 percent of Gen Z are open to the possibility of getting married, with 1 in 2 saying they definitely see it happening this year.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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