{"id":3183,"date":"2023-03-27T14:48:10","date_gmt":"2023-03-27T14:48:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/strongermarriages\/?p=3183"},"modified":"2023-09-21T18:44:01","modified_gmt":"2023-09-21T18:44:01","slug":"james-van-der-beek-emotionally-describes-wifes-miscarriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/strongermarriages\/2023\/03\/james-van-der-beek-emotionally-describes-wifes-miscarriage.html","title":{"rendered":"James Van Der Beek Emotionally Describes Wife&#8217;s Miscarriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_4919\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4919\" style=\"width: 768px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-4919\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/413\/2023\/03\/james-kimberly-van-der-beek-credit-lev-radin-shutterstock-1-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"768\" height=\"576\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-4919\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">lev radin\/Shutterstock.com<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>James Van Der Beek, best known for his role in the 90s television series \u201cDawson\u2019s Creek,\u201d recently discussed his wife\u2019s 2019 miscarriage and the emotional toll the heartbreak took on them. He openly talked about the experience on the <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/bathroom-chronicles\/id1669068961\">\u201cBathroom Chronicles\u201d podcast.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Van Der Beek was competing on \u201cDancing With The Stars\u201d when his wife, Kimberly, had the miscarriage. He recalled that she was 17 and a half weeks pregnant, and something just felt \u201coff.\u201d He continued, \u201cIt was just so much pain, and it was so unexpected because everything was right. Everything was a fairy tale. Everything was coming together perfectly. It progressed very quickly into being worried about Kim. We were both just crying and sobbing, and there was a lot of blood, way more blood than any delivery.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Van Der Beek remembered his wife lying in the shower and not waking up, which was when he called 911. He decided to stay home with the couple\u2019s five other children while Kimberly was taken to the hospital.<\/p>\n<p>Van Der Beek said on the podcast, talking to his wife, \u201cYou were gone. The ambulance had taken you away. I got Gwen back to bed. And I\u2019m just sitting there in a bathroom full of blood. It was just a gut punch, an emotional gut punch.\u201d The following week, the actor, 46, revealed on\u00a0<em>DWTS<\/em>\u00a0that Kimberly had lost their then-sixth baby on the way.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cMy wife Kimberly and I went through every expecting parent\u2019s worst nightmare. We lost the baby,\u201d he said at the time. \u201cThe little soul that we had expected to welcome into our family took a shortcut to whatever lies beyond.\u201d However, despite the gut-wrenching tragedy he and his wife endured, Van Der Beek finished the \u201cDWTS\u201d competition at Kimberly\u2019s insistence.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CpiHohHp73R\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"><a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CpiHohHp73R\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by James Van Der Beek (@vanderjames)<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>This discussion isn\u2019t the first time Van Der Beek spoke out about miscarriage. In 2018, he argued that miscarriages should be renamed. As CBN News reported, the actor wrote on Instagram, \u201c\u2019Miscarriage,\u2019 in an insidious way, suggests fault for the mother, as if she dropped something or failed to \u2018carry.\u2019 From what I\u2019ve learned, in all but the most obvious, extreme cases, it has nothing to do with anything the mother did or didn\u2019t do.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Van Der Beek, whose wife has suffered three miscarriages, said society should create a new term for the unfortunate experience that eliminates \u201call blame\u201d for the involuntary loss of an unborn child. The Van Der Beek family, who recently relocated from Los Angeles to Austin, Texas, have six children.<\/p>\n<p>According\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marchofdimes.org\/find-support\/topics\/miscarriage-loss-grief\/miscarriage\">to the March of Dimes<\/a>, 10-20 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage, and roughly 80 percent happen within the first trimester, before the 12th week of pregnancy. Miscarriages, it should be noted, are defined as pregnancy losses before the 20-week mark.<\/p>\n<p>Despite the tragic events of their miscarriage, the Van Der Beek family is still going strong. Van Der Beek recently celebrated his 46th birthday, posting a photo on Instagram of him with all six of his children.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>James Van Der Beek, best known for his role in the 90s television series \u201cDawson\u2019s Creek,\u201d recently discussed his wife\u2019s 2019 miscarriage and the emotional toll the heartbreak took on them. 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