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\"coupleIt is my longing that makes me love you intensely,<\/em>
\n For I yearn to be loved from the heart.<\/em><\/p>\n

It is my eternity that makes me love you long,<\/em>
\n For I have no end.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2013 Mechtild of Magdeburg,<\/em>
\n German mystic of the Beguines, 1282<\/em><\/p>\n

Love is mystical in the sense that science is not yet able to quantify it. But science does agree that how we view reality is held within our brain.<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t really know what real love is until we experience it clearly. Many times we fall in love and then wonder, \u201cWas that really love, or was that love false?\u201d We get baffled by love, we get betrayed by love, we get let down by love, and then our human story of loss unfolds and disappointment becomes our belief of love.<\/p>\n

Clarity of Love Is the Resurrection in the Faith of Love<\/h3>\n

We are now on the precipice of a great change, a great momentum in the history of humanity- The Age of Surprise. We\u2019re seeing globally what the lie of love looks like, what false promises look like, what false judgment looks like. We are seeing the lie in front of us so we can learn how not to lie. The essence of true love cannot lie.<\/p>\n

We Are Here to Love<\/h3>\n

We were born to flourish in the potential of our birthright, love. Love is the dream you cried out as you birthed from your mother\u2019s womb screaming, \u201cI am here, I am here, I have arrived!\u201d We spend the rest of our lives trying to find our true voice, the clarity of love, again.<\/p>\n

There Are Many Kinds of Love<\/h3>\n

There is the great love of the Divine Presence, the bliss, the Oneness of All. That love actually transcends our human experience. It is the state wherein the one are many and the many are one. The experience of the oneness of being is the blissful experience of communion with a Greater Reality and is the most wonderful and fulfilling kind of love.<\/p>\n

It is still not enough, though, because we are human. Even experiencing that incredible place of oneness that the Yogis speak of, we are still left with a longing for the human experience of love, the closeness of a companion, the warmth of a community. Having experienced the transcendental state of love many times, I\u2019ve come to believe that to truly transform as humans, to be truly enlightened, we must experience both of these types of love- the divine love and the human love. To deny oneself of one or the other is like eating a piece of cake while taking off all the frosting; you don\u2019t really get to enjoy the pleasure of the full cake.<\/p>\n

The idea that human love is not as holy as divine love has led us to believe that we are not capable of loving each other with the complete capacity with which we can love the Father God or the Mother Divine. But if we are in fact divine beings, if we are in fact made in the image of God, then as we love one another in our humanness, this love is also capable of being a divine love, because we are divine beings, created from divine light in a divinely human form.<\/p>\n

Love Is the Myriad of Experience<\/h3>\n

Love is like a diamond of rainbow colors. Each facet is beautiful. Sometimes you can step back and see the entire diamond and say, \u201cOh yes, there are many beautiful facets.\u201d Then, sometimes you\u2019re inside the diamond; you\u2019re inside one facet or another. These are the different aspects and experiences of love. Each experience is important. Each facet as part of the whole creates the diamond\u2019s brilliance. Love is like that.<\/p>\n

Love Is Clarity of Consciousness<\/h3>\n

Clarity of consciousness is like clear water. It\u2019s a superconductor. It is a carrier of frequency, and love is a frequency.<\/p>\n

Love Is Intimacy<\/h3>\n

At its core, human love is about becoming truly intimate with another and understanding the other person. When you love someone, you desire to love them the way they want to be loved. There is a learning curve to this. But you want to put in the time and the effort because, well, you love the other person.<\/p>\n

Love Requires Maturity<\/h3>\n

It takes a mature person to see, know, feel and sustain true love. Love requires contemplation and reflection. Was I my most loving self today? How can I love better?<\/p>\n

Love Requires Wisdom<\/h3>\n

Without wisdom, love breaks. Unlike the diamond, love is fragile, even the divine love. Without constant practice, communion with the divine slips away like a glove in the night.<\/p>\n

Wisdom keeps the enemy of love, the ego mind, at bay, ensuring your love is sustained and nurtured to grow and grow.<\/p>\n

To have a fulfilling experience here in this human world we require both kinds of love: the divine communion and the human communion. It is that simple. Yet, it is that complex. We are the complicated diamond of 8 billion facets attempting to love the best we know how. And that is where \u201cthe one are many and the many are one\u201d gets complicated.<\/p>\n

Clarity of love is the love divine that drives us on our journey to become more than we ever thought we could be. Love.<\/p>\n

Human love, the touch of the senses, the support of one to another \u2013 this ultimately is the love that will heal our world. To experience divine love is to know how to give human love. And this is how we create love.<\/p>\n

Guest post by Deirdre Hade. Deirdre is a mystic, artist and visionary elucidating the spiritual world. Learn more at www.deirdrehade.com<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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