{"id":2499,"date":"2023-02-23T15:07:01","date_gmt":"2023-02-23T15:07:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/strongermarriages\/?p=2499"},"modified":"2023-03-16T19:48:33","modified_gmt":"2023-03-16T19:48:33","slug":"florida-pastor-says-everyone-wont-find-the-one","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/strongermarriages\/2023\/02\/florida-pastor-says-everyone-wont-find-the-one.html","title":{"rendered":"Florida Pastor Says Everyone Won&#8217;t Find &#8220;The One&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_2505\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-2505\" style=\"width: 768px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2505\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/413\/2023\/02\/romantic-couple-beach-credit-pexels-asad-photo-maldives-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"couple\" width=\"768\" height=\"576\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-2505\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Asad Photo Maldives\/Pexels.com<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>A Florida megachurch has refuted the concept of every person being destined to fall in love with one person, commonly known as \u201cthe one.\u201d In a sermon shared in early February, Pastor J.J. Vasquez of the Orlando-based Journey Church said that the idea of people searching for their romantic partner who \u201cGod destined\u201d as \u201cthe one\u201d is unrealistic for numerous reasons.<\/p>\n<p>Vasquez, who founded his church in 2014 with his wife, Liz, said, \u201cThis is the image of love that we\u2019re sold in all of the multi-million-dollar making movies. \u201c\u2019You complete me,\u2019 that we are a picture that is missing the piece and that somewhere in the world God has cut someone out who can\u2019t fit right into the area of your heart that you are missing.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Vaquez believes that the concept of \u201cthe one\u201d isn\u2019t biblical and doesn\u2019t believe in it. He said the idea of \u201cthe one\u201d makes God\u2019s plan for the world easily broken if someone misses their person. Vasquez added that people who think their romantic partner is \u201cthe one\u201d give that person too much power, ignoring that some people weren\u2019t meant to get married. He also said the \u201cthe one\u201d concept ignores the Bible\u2019s words.<\/p>\n<p>Vasquez cited\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/bibleportal.com\/verse-topic?v=Matthew+19%3A12&amp;version=NIV\">Matthew 19:12<\/a>, which reads, \u201cthere are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others \u2014 and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven.\u201d\u00a0The pastor said those who are meant to be single for life have been given a gift from God, and there\u2019s a purpose in that gift.<\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-bl6-eT3w3A\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Vasquez said, \u201cIf you\u2019re single, you don\u2019t have to worry about the other puzzle pieces. All you got to do is connect to your purpose [in God]. Because when you connect to your purpose, even if the other person doesn\u2019t come, all your needs are still met.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The idea that some people have that \u201cthe one will complete my heart\u201d often leaves Jesus out of the picture, he warned, adding that everyone has an empty void in their heart that needs to be filled with Jesus, not other people.\u00a0\u00a0\u201cIf you\u2019re missing a piece, and that person holds the piece of your heart, you\u2019re telling me you\u2019re putting all your identity, all your hope, all your peace in the hands of a person? Have you ever met a person? People are crazy,\u201d Vasquez said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat if that person decides to cheat on you and gives your heart to someone else or steps on your heart? What if that person dies and takes your heart with them to the grave? What then? Not only that, the logic all falls apart. Because hear me, this is the real issue. If we all are pictures, missing our pieces, then another person could never fill me. Why? Because then that would mean that they too [are missing a piece of their heart].\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Vasquez said it\u2019s essential for Christians to recognize that \u201cthe one\u201d does not exist and that loneliness won\u2019t disappear just because one gets married.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A Florida megachurch has refuted the concept of every person being destined to fall in love with one person, commonly known as \u201cthe one.\u201d In a sermon shared in early February, Pastor J.J. 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