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\nDo you have a case of the \u201cWhen I haves\u201d? The \u201cWhen I haves\u201d are the tripped-up ways of thinking that go something like this: \u201cWhen I have that job, or when I have that relationship, or when I have that money . . . then I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d This future-tripping leads your mind to control, manipulate and over-think. Plus you\u2019ll be led to thoughts like, \u201cWhen will I get there?\u201d and \u201cWhy am I not there yet?\u201d
\nObsessing over future outcomes always leads to discomfort. What happens is that you\u2019ve turned that future outcome into an idol. You\u2019ve placed the outcome on a pedestal, proclaiming, \u201cWhen I have that, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d Or even worse, you tell yourself that because you don\u2019t have it now, your life totally sucks and you\u2019ll never be happy.<\/p>\n

There are three steps to escaping the \u201cWhen I have\u201d mentality. First, take the focus off yourself. By choosing to shift your focus from a \u201cwoe is me\u201d mentality, to a \u201chow can I help others\u201d mentality, you immediately are blasted into another dimension. You\u2019ll be brought back to your true reason for being on this planet: to give love and receive love. By shifting your focus off yourself you\u2019ll quickly feel a sense of relief. You\u2019ll feel calmer and begin to release your obsession with the future. Most importantly you\u2019ll get out of your own way and be of service to someone else.<\/p>\n

This brings us to the second stop for releasing the \u201cWhen I haves.\u201d It\u2019s pretty simple: Calm down. Embrace the concept that you are right where you need to be. Think about it. Can you remember a time in your life where you thought you\u2019d never survive the situation you were in? In retrospect, can you now find some serenity in that past situation? Possibly, you may now understand that you wouldn\u2019t be where you are today without the difficult past circumstance. If so, use these past examples as impetus to begin accepting your current life circumstances as learning opportunities for the future. Have faith that there\u2019s a plan greater than yours that will guide you to serenity.<\/p>\n

Now you might be thinking, \u201cHow the hell am I supposed to have faith that there\u2019s a plan greater than mine?\u201d Well, my friend, this brings us to the final step. Drum roll, please: Stop thinking and start connecting. This connection I speak of is a connection to the energy of the Universe. The Universe is a constant flow of energy, always creating, always supporting and always attracting. The same energy that makes the planets revolve around the sun also lives inside you. This energy is vibrating through you at all times. When you are vibrating with fear, the energy of the Universe is attracting more fearful outcomes to you. When you are vibrating from a place of faith, you are guided to outcomes that are in alignment with the calm state that faith provides. The way to positively co-create with this Universal energy is through daily prayer and meditation. A daily practice of prayer and meditation will help calm your thoughts and bring you into the present moment. By calming your mind you calm your energy. Therefore, you end up in a much better state for attracting better outcomes. This is what is called co-creating with Universal energy.<\/p>\n

Your daily practice of prayer and meditation will rev up your positive energy and tone down your fear. Begin your prayers with one of my favorites from A Course in Miracles: \u201cWhere would You have me go? What would You have me do? What would You have me say, and to whom?\u201d Once you\u2019ve said the prayer out loud or in your head, sit in quiet meditation for five minutes. Focus on your breathing and allow guidance to come through.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re ready to release your \u201cWhen I haves\u201d and surrender to \u201cI\u2019m right where I need to be,\u201d test-drive the above suggestions for the next 30 days. As a result you will feel empowered by a sense of connectedness to the Universe, and you\u2019ll experience release. Faith will become something that you understand on a gut level. If you do your part to make positive perceptual shifts you can expect miracles. \u201cHeaven on earth\u201d is not just a catchphrase.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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