{"id":68,"date":"2015-05-06T18:46:16","date_gmt":"2015-05-06T18:46:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/simplyfabulous\/?p=68"},"modified":"2015-05-06T18:46:16","modified_gmt":"2015-05-06T18:46:16","slug":"whats-your-story","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/simplyfabulous\/2015\/05\/whats-your-story.html","title":{"rendered":"What’s Your Story?"},"content":{"rendered":"

We all have one. \u00a0A\u00a0story<\/em>. \u00a0Good or bad, happy or sad… we all have a life story that tells the path we have taken and the experiences we have been through. \u00a0But often, we can become attached to these stories – whether we actually want to or not.<\/p>\n

Somewhere along the way, we get used to the patterns in our life. \u00a0For instance, if you struggle with anxiety or an addiction… even though it may be a negative aspect of your life, you are familiar with it. \u00a0It’s comfortable, it’s expected and it’s your “normal.”<\/p>\n

The same can be said for the people in your life.<\/p>\n

If your mother has a history of being overbearing and condescending, then that is what you become accustomed to and you expect her to continue to fulfill that “role,” whether it’s consciously or not.<\/p>\n

But what if you want to change your story?<\/p>\n

Is it possible to break out of your old story and start writing a new one?<\/p>\n

YES.<\/p>\n

The key is recognizing that you’re stuck in your old story in the first place. \u00a0Once you recognize the old beliefs you are carrying around – and the emotions and outcomes these beliefs cause – you can work on changing them. \u00a0No matter what you’ve been through, you\u00a0always\u00a0<\/em>have the opportunity to turn things around. \u00a0And once you realize that your life is in your control, the turn can happen quickly.<\/p>\n

So how do you change your story?<\/p>\n

*Let yourself process what \u00a0has happened in your past. \u00a0Don’t “stuff” your feelings deep down inside… acknowledge them, feel them, and then let them go. \u00a0Give yourself permission to release them.<\/p>\n

*Replace the lies you used to believe with new truths. \u00a0If you’ve always told yourself, “I’m unreliable” or “I’ll always be a mess” and you want to change that, change the words you speak to yourself! \u00a0Whenever the old lies start to creep into your head, don’t acknowledge them and meditate on them. \u00a0Simply let them pass through your mind and replace them with new truths – “I extend myself grace” or “I am becoming more reliable.”<\/p>\n

*Do not worry about the actions of other people in your life. \u00a0You cannot change someone else’s behavior. \u00a0Instead focus on changing your own behavior and your own beliefs, and be amazed at how others’ reactions toward you will change as well!<\/p>\n

It is never too late to change your story. \u00a0So what are you waiting for? \u00a0Go ahead and start writing a new future. \u00a0The pen is in your hand!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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