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I am someone who once I decided to live outside of my comfort zone, I have found new ones I had to move past. It’s all\u00a0part of the learning, growing, living, and learning cycle of life to me. Last year, I did my first public speaking gig as an author’s talk in my town, where I spoke to people about writing, my journey, and my novel “The Jennifers.”\u00a0\u00a0I was asked to do another one at another library after I was featured in the local paper. I also worked along side my friend, Sheree Bykofsky, the fabulous author, speaker, literary agent, doing a writing workshop, where I spoke about my experience with self-publishing. Right before I delivered my fifth child, I spoke about reinvention at a STEPS event. And about a month ago, I spoke at our local high school about my struggles at a teen with bulimia, cutting, depression, anxiety, attempting suicide, and\u00a0where I\u00a0wanted to give the teens who are currently going through anything difficult, some\u00a0hope for their future. I was very honest about my panic attacks, weight loss experience,\u00a0etc.\u00a0as an adult\u00a0also and how you are ultimately responsible for your own happiness always<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I never thought I would do any of this, let alone be an author and a blogger.\u00a0 And I never thought I’d be a Beachbody\u00ae<\/sup>\u00a0\u00a0Coach or fitness one for that matter, although people have been asking my advice on weight loss, diet, and exercise for years, once they see my before<\/em> and afters<\/em>, so I thought, why not?\u00a0 Except that selling is outside of my comfort zone.\u00a0 I wanted to give everything away for free.\u00a0 People expected it from me and that’s the dynamic I set up.\u00a0 It wasn’t serving me or my message anymore and I felt it.\u00a0 In fact, it was showing I wasn’t practicing what I was preaching.\u00a0 I was comfortable giving.\u00a0 I was comfortable receiving a little from many people, but only comfortable receiving a lot from my parents or my husband.\u00a0 When I got real with myself, I saw these blocks in business and how I had subconscious\/unconscious patterns going on.\u00a0 I asked myself were there still self-worth issues going on like the layers of the onion?\u00a0 I kept exploring my thoughts and getting real on my comfort zone.\u00a0 I didn’t want to owe anyone, take advantage of them, or inconvenience them. . .all these projection I put on them.\u00a0 All I was doing was offering products.\u00a0 There was no weird story, unless I made one.\u00a0 I wasn’t selling out.\u00a0 I could make money and help people.<\/p>\n

I swear some people are born with that seller gene and they could sell ice to an Eskimo.\u00a0 Took a business class about branding from Kellie Kuecha as I envision myself as a entrepreneur with multiple businesses, books, programs, and the sky’s the limit.\u00a0 I looked at her and the other women, in awe, just soaking up the genius vibes.\u00a0 I realized I was playing small again.\u00a0 Luckily, I know the comparing\/competition game doesn’t work for me or I’d have been doomed in that class with those brilliant women, and a few men.\u00a0 As I gained clarity around my business, I realized I also had to let go of the attachment to the outcome, but to stay focused on my intention.\u00a0 All my confusion was many things. I uncovered fears about making mistakes, not being perfect, looking foolish, seeing greedy, and being considered inauthentic.\u00a0 Oh. . .all that almost stings to write as I munch on my organic tortilla chips.\u00a0 I can be real and make money.\u00a0 I can do business and be authentic.\u00a0 I can sell whatever and not alienate myself from people.\u00a0 I’ve heard people lose friends because they’re too pushy with their product.\u00a0 That won’t be me.<\/p>\n

Trust is key.\u00a0 Trust that I’ll attract the right customers, clients, readers, followers\/supporters, friends, and even mentors or teachers.\u00a0 I trust myself.\u00a0 It’s not selling out ever, unless you are out of integrity with what you’re selling.\u00a0 Okay, putting the chips away now.\u00a0 They’re just crumbs anyway. . .and I’m not settling for crumbs anymore.\u00a0 Neither should you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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