Oh…yes, I’m the selfish caterpillar.<\/p>\n
Teens and their parents fight. Yes, of course, but as much as that happens, I can’t imagine ever wanting them out of the house. They are teenagers who are acting like teenagers, but they are still our babies deep down there inside. I think I suck at parenting sometimes. I am emotional. I get angry. I don’t respect boundaries…yet…cause I’m trying to figure out when to let go. At what age?\u00a0 You think the stages of ages prepare, but in my experience lately, it hasn’t.\u00a0 So I’ll tell you a story only to make sense of it in my head.\u00a0 I think in\u00a0metaphors. Actually, it’s a personification really, but really both.<\/p>\n
There was a caterpillar that loved its life. Things were cozy on the ground. She could see the trees and climb them slowly. She could marvel at the sky, but didn’t need anything to change as she saw winged creatures, new ones each day taking flight for the first time.<\/p>\n
One day things started to change. The caterpillar heard whispers from caterpillar friends that there was this thing that happened. This aspect of them that would change. It would literally get so wrapped in its own world, cocooning itself in its chrysalis so that it was no longer part of caterpillar world. It wasn’t a butterfly yet either. It was in between worlds. No matter how much the caterpillar wanted things to stay the same…nature doesn’t work like that.\u00a0 No matter how much the caterpillar feared the new world, it was happening.\u00a0 To be a butterfly was its destiny.\u00a0 It would have to take flight and soar to brand new, faraway places without its caterpillar self.\u00a0 It would always have a part of the caterpillar within the butterfly.<\/p>\n
The caterpillar doesn’t die.\u00a0 It changes form.\u00a0 It is a new chapter.\u00a0 It is how God intended it.\u00a0 It transforms both the caterpillar and the butterfly.\u00a0 It is a huge level of trust on the part of the caterpillar and a huge level of courage on the part of the butterfly.\u00a0 One has to let go in or order for the other to become.\u00a0 Soon, the butterfly will bust her way out into the world and things will never be the same.\u00a0 The caterpillar is preparing.\u00a0 The butterfly\u00a0is preparing…only in my story, they are in different cocoon\/chrysalises.<\/p>\n
In real life, I\u00a0am not good with this college stuff.\u00a0 This caterpillar is not ready for the butterfly to soar.\u00a0 I am being a selfish\u00a0caterpillar.\u00a0 I am going to try my hardest to support the butterfly.\u00a0\u00a0I will focus on the happiness of the butterfly taking flight…off to college.\u00a0 I will strive to support her more and not\u00a0avoid\u00a0the inevitable.<\/p>\n
What are you avoiding that is inevitable or just part of life?\u00a0 Are there any changes that you dread?\u00a0 We all have\u00a0many stages of life.\u00a0 These are all here to assist our\u00a0growth. It’s just that\u00a0usually when we’re so in it, we can’t see reality.\u00a0 We have to trust that no matter what phase\u00a0of it we’re in,\u00a0it will work\u00a0out. Seems so silly sometimes when our problems\u00a0or challenges are so small compared to others, but it’s all relative.\u00a0 Our stress is our stress.\u00a0 Just know, it will all work out.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Oh…yes, I’m the selfish caterpillar. Teens and their parents fight. Yes, of course, but as much as that happens, I can’t imagine ever wanting them out of the house. They are teenagers who are acting like teenagers, but they are still our babies deep down there inside. I think I suck at parenting sometimes. I…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":568,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-222","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n