Setting boundaries and saying no has never been my strong suit.\u00a0 My mid-thirties have made it abundantly clear I need to.\u00a0 I’m learning how to do it assertively.\u00a0 How many women can relate to this?<\/p>\n
I just posted something on Facebook\u00a0that some probably sounded mean to some people.\u00a0 It was not my intention. It was about how I roll. \u00a0It was about social media etiquette. \u00a0It was sassy and to the point.\u00a0 Men never come off as mean saying no or setting boundaries. \u00a0They just say no. \u00a0No hesitation. \u00a0No drama. \u00a0No guilt.\u00a0 They just say no because it doesn’t’ work for them, they don’t want to,\u00a0in fact\u00a0they don’t even feel like they need to give a reason.<\/p>\n
My husband has taught me so much about this.\u00a0 Feeling guilty because you literally can’t do something for someone was alien to him. \u00a0In my twenties, I would look at him and think he’s so much happier because he sets boundaries and doesn’t worry what people think. \u00a0I was a people pleaser who constantly felt drained.\u00a0 I would feel depleted of energy if I said no because I was afraid people wouldn’t like me anymore or think I was selfish.\u00a0\u00a0 Who even knows what I was thinking anymore?\u00a0 I was assuming a lot of what was in other people’s\u00a0minds.\u00a0 If I did commit to something that I didn’t want to do, or that put too much on my plate, I felt awful.\u00a0 My intuition was trying to tell me to follow my own inner guidance, but I was putting others’ opinions above my own, by worrying about them.<\/p>\n
I am now an author, blogger, inspirational speaker, and I have five kids.\u00a0 In getting my career going here, it has never been more clear to me to be CLEAR. \u00a0I must be clear with myself and others on what works for me and what doesn’t.\u00a0\u00a0 I’ve observed other women, I\u00a0see some do it aggressively and some do it tactfully, where it even seems sweet.\u00a0 I want it to feel light and effortless, not like I’m slapping people in the face with my truth.\u00a0 How others feel about what my feelings are is none of my business though.\u00a0 They’re entitled\u00a0to feel mad or\u00a0like I “should” do something even if I don’t feel obligated to.\u00a0 I know letting go of expectations of others is so freeing.\u00a0\u00a0These are the things\u00a0I want to teach my children.\u00a0 Setting boundaries and being intentional with\u00a0your life is self-love to the MAX.\u00a0 CEO’s of companies have to know what their vision is and what they want.\u00a0 Wishy-washy doesn’t work when you’re building a brand. \u00a0I’m making it my mission to teach women self-love and deciding what is right for them. \u00a0You really do have your answers within, if you can get out of your own way, as in your negative thinking.\u00a0 This is where keeping your mind open serves you best.\u00a0 And the next time a woman sets a boundary with you, don’t take it personally.\u00a0 She’s not trying to be mean. \u00a0She’s actually trying to be kind to herself.\u00a0 Honor that.\u00a0 We are all in charge of our own happiness.<\/p>\n
I’ve learned I’d rather be known as the happy girl than the nice girl.\u00a0 Cause happy girls are nice, but nice girls aren’t always happy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Setting boundaries and saying no has never been my strong suit.\u00a0 My mid-thirties have made it abundantly clear I need to.\u00a0 I’m learning how to do it assertively.\u00a0 How many women can relate to this? I just posted something on Facebook\u00a0that some probably sounded mean to some people.\u00a0 It was not my intention. It was…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":568,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n