{"id":167,"date":"2014-08-17T14:56:19","date_gmt":"2014-08-17T14:56:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/sassyspirit\/?p=167"},"modified":"2014-08-17T14:56:19","modified_gmt":"2014-08-17T14:56:19","slug":"ugh-that-mom-again","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/sassyspirit\/2014\/08\/ugh-that-mom-again.html","title":{"rendered":"Ugh…that mom again."},"content":{"rendered":"

“That” mom is different for everyone. Some people dread seeing that<\/em> mom that is perfect.\u00a0 Some may not want to that<\/em> mom who seems angry and on edge.\u00a0 Yesterday, I was hoping I would not be that latter mom, as I was so her the day before.\u00a0 I can have a lot of patience and then sometimes it seems like I have none…zilch…zero.\u00a0 But it’s because a lot has led up to it.\u00a0 My four year old is still adjusting to not being the baby and acts out, plus he’s four and they’re crazy.<\/p>\n

As for being that mom that<\/em> is perfect\u00a0has NEVER been me.\u00a0 I’ve always been too much something and not enough something else for that.\u00a0 I met one of these moms recently and she had the figure, that perfectly highlighted hair, you already knew what her house would look like, and her kids will reflect her magazine cover of “This is what your\u00a0life should look like.”\u00a0 She is BFF’s with “Mrs. Should,” that woman who represents all your should in your own life.\u00a0 I wanted to be that<\/em> mom that is perfect, has it all together, not as many junk drawers as me…in fact, she has none.\u00a0 Her drawers have organizers in them.\u00a0 When I’d meet that<\/em> mom in the past, I’d beat myself up.\u00a0 In my twenties, I’d really want to be her.\u00a0 Life looked so easy for her.\u00a0 She made parenting look easy too.\u00a0 Truth is, it’s not real.\u00a0 Yes, there are women out there who maybe are really that<\/em> mom in their home as well as their public persona.\u00a0 But it doesn’t have anything to do with me.\u00a0 I’m perfectly me. Comparison and competition will only make you feel like a loser at some point.\u00a0 Just win at being you.\u00a0 Focus on your own race, lane, green grass, life…and be that<\/em> mom\/dad\/person who is happy with themselves.<\/p>\n

Back to my beach day madness two days ago.\u00a0 I could feel this older couples eyes on me when my son was acting up on the beach. The crowds had thinned out so there wasn’t as much distraction, as in you can’t see our crazy show going on.\u00a0 “Stop throwing sand.\u00a0 Don’t kick your brother.\u00a0 Come here.\u00a0 Seamus, Seamus….SEAMUS!!!!”\u00a0 Yep, I’m that mom you judge for her kid being very spirited.\u00a0 Good thing he’s cute.\u00a0 When a mom is having a moment like that, smile at her.\u00a0 It’s a reassurance without any words.\u00a0 You’re telling her you’ve been there, you can see she’s trying and that her kid is not evil.\u00a0 When\u00a0she raises her voice and grabs his hand to show she means business and\u00a0needs respect in order to keep her kids safe.\u00a0 When you are that<\/em> mom, on the beach, in the grocery store, on the playground, struggling with\u00a0your kids and having the judgment eyes on you it\u00a0can make you feel alone, angry, and like the worst mom EVER. \u00a0\u00a0Less judgement and more compassion always feels better in our being.\u00a0 We’re all trying to do our best for the most part.\u00a0 Let’s try to lift each other up.\u00a0 To see peace in the world, let’s be peaceful people with our minds and hearts on our own neck of the woods.\u00a0 And relax.\u00a0 Be easy on yourself.\u00a0 Forgive and let go quickly. This goes for your kids and yourself as well.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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