{"id":647,"date":"2015-06-17T17:08:01","date_gmt":"2015-06-17T17:08:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/safeplacewithruthgraham\/?p=647"},"modified":"2015-06-17T17:08:01","modified_gmt":"2015-06-17T17:08:01","slug":"trans-everything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/safeplacewithruthgraham\/2015\/06\/trans-everything.html","title":{"rendered":"Trans&#8230;everything"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Rachel Dolezal didn&#8217;t identify as a white&#8230;so she chose to become black. But, in reality, she couldn&#8217;t become black. It is something you are or are not. I was born white with white parents, siblings, cousins, grandparents. I am white. No matter how hard I try, I can never be anything else. Rachel changed her hair, deepened her skin color, associated with blacks and their culture, studied African-American studies. She passed herself off as a black woman and was quite good at it &#8211; she fooled a lot of people. But she is still a white woman. No matter what. Her natural parents are white.<\/p>\n<p>The former Bruce Jenner didn&#8217;t identify as a male. He faked it for a long time.<\/p>\n<p>I am sure there is a great angst in pretending you are something you are not. You must always worry you will be &#8220;found out&#8221;. Is it worth it.<\/p>\n<p>Recently, someone asked me why I was so transparent I replied, &#8220;If I tell on myself then no one can tell on me.&#8221; I don&#8217;t want to be blindsided by my own sin and faults &#8211; and they can show up at the most awkward times! I just find it easier to be honest. Less stressful.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s not to say I tell everything I know. Somethings don&#8217;t need to be shared. I have seen people try to be honest but tell way too much and the listeners became uncomfortable. \u00a0I cannot tell another person&#8217;s story &#8211; that&#8217;s their&#8217;s to tell. I get so annoyed when someone comes up to me all excited with someone else&#8217;s news&#8230;be it good or bad. We should only tell on ourselves. I can only tell on myself &#8211; no one else.<\/p>\n<p>So&#8230;telling on myself makes life a lot simpler. Yes, I do open myself up\u00a0to criticism and misunderstanding but I don&#8217;t have to pretend to be something I am not. Poor Bruce and Rachel &#8211; the years they pretended and where did it get them? Rachel has become a joke and known as a liar. I am distressed for her parents and family. Bruce has become a hero to some &#8211; not to me &#8211; and is making a large fortune off of his situation. But the story isn&#8217;t finished. I suspect he will not be a happy person, content and fulfilled.<\/p>\n<p>I am not sure if it is a &#8220;fad&#8221;, a trend&#8230;but what happened to contentment? Content with race, gender, size, shape, family&#8230;somethings we can change. If we don&#8217;t like our job, or size, or income we can work to alter that, within reason. God made us as we are and put us where we are. He has a purpose and that purpose is to bring Him glory wherever we are. The Apostle Paul told us, &#8220;holiness with contentment is great gain.&#8221; (1 Tim. 6: 6) He also told us that \u00a0he had learned to be content. (Phil. 4:12) Hebrews tells us to be content with what we have (Heb. 13:5). The Hebrews reference is to material things &#8211; but the other references are not limited.<\/p>\n<p>God says He wants truth in the inward parts &#8211; down deep where no one sees &#8211; but God. King David prayed that God would keep him from hidden faults. Transparency is freeing. It is also God&#8217;s desire for us. I don&#8217;t think we need to worry about being trans anything. Let&#8217;s be content and grateful for what we do have and who we are.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>PS &#8211; I know these matters are complicated. There are pathological, psychological, sociological issues involved. But there are spiritual issues, too. We make matters worse by compounding them with sin.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Rachel Dolezal didn&#8217;t identify as a white&#8230;so she chose to become black. But, in reality, she couldn&#8217;t become black. It is something you are or are not. I was born white with white parents, siblings, cousins, grandparents. I am white. No matter how hard I try, I can never be anything else. 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