{"id":519,"date":"2014-07-22T15:49:07","date_gmt":"2014-07-22T15:49:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/safeplacewithruthgraham\/?p=519"},"modified":"2014-07-22T15:49:07","modified_gmt":"2014-07-22T15:49:07","slug":"hope-vs-despair","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/safeplacewithruthgraham\/2014\/07\/hope-vs-despair.html","title":{"rendered":"Hope vs. Despair"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever been depressed? Low? Lower than a &#8220;lizard&#8217;s belt buckle&#8221;, as my mother used to say.\u00a0&#8220;Cast down&#8221;, as King David said in Psalm 42.<\/p>\n<p>David wrote he cried day and night while men taunted him. He thought back to the good times which made him feel worse. He uses the word, \u00a0&#8220;disturbed&#8221; &#8211; his usual joy and peace were in shambles.<\/p>\n<p>If we are honest,\u00a0think we all experience such times,. We live in a fallen world with evidence of that reality all around us as a passenger jetliner is shot out of the sky by a missile, as war looms in the Middle East, \u00a0fires rage out West, refugees flee, \u00a0flood waters rise, children are abused, evil seems to be willing&#8230; \u00a0It&#8217;s tough out there and getting tougher day by day. It is so easy to feel despair these days &#8211; to feel powerless and get angry.<\/p>\n<p>As we go through the dark times we long for God to come deliver us as David did when he wrote, &#8220;My soul pants for you, O God..my soul thirsts for God&#8230;when can I go and meet with God?&#8221; Perhaps you, too, have felt like David. He wanted a meeting with God to sort it out! \u00a0He wanted God Himself.<\/p>\n<p>David poured out his heart to God &#8211; not his neighbor, friends, therapist, spouse &#8211; but to God.\u00a0No substitute.\u00a0(I am not saying that having a neighbor, friends, therapist, spouse to talk to isn&#8217;t important &#8211; far from it &#8211; God gave us fellow human beings to helps us. He placed us in communities for a reason.)<\/p>\n<p>But usually we sort of stop there talking to others seeking their advice and opinions. And just maybe when all else fails we might talk to God as a last resort. Not David. He went to God first and poured out his heart. He complained freely, boldly &#8211; he told God just how he felt!<\/p>\n<p>Then he told himself to place his hope in God and determined to praise Him as his Savior and his God. (Notice the personal pronouns &#8211; <em>his<\/em> Savior and <em>his<\/em> God.) When David is feeling low he decides to remember God.<\/p>\n<p>How many times when we are low, depressed and angry do we throw God into the mix and get mad at Him, too? Or act like a petulant child and decide we just won&#8217;t talk to God anymore? So there! \u00a0Oh, yes, there are times when David acts like a child. David vents his anger and frustration towards God &#8211; God can handle it. He is much bigger than all of it and there is nothing we can say He hasn&#8217;t heard before. He is the safest One to talk to. David tells God exactly how he feels.<\/p>\n<p>But he doesn&#8217;t stop there. He makes a decision. A decision to hope and praise &#8211; an act of the will. I doubt seriously if David felt like hoping or praising. Maybe he wanted to wallow in self-pity, or kill someone, run away, hide, get drunk&#8230; But he decided to hope and praise. Hope isn&#8217;t wishful thinking. It is confident expectation. Praise isn&#8217;t just saying &#8216;thank you&#8221;. It is worship.<\/p>\n<p>That was David&#8217;s way out of despair. It is our way out too.<\/p>\n<p>Despair or hope? Praise or complaint? Fear or peace? It&#8217;s our choice.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever been depressed? Low? Lower than a &#8220;lizard&#8217;s belt buckle&#8221;, as my mother used to say.\u00a0&#8220;Cast down&#8221;, as King David said in Psalm 42. David wrote he cried day and night while men taunted him. He thought back to the good times which made him feel worse. 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