{"id":400,"date":"2013-11-04T22:04:12","date_gmt":"2013-11-04T22:04:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/safeplacewithruthgraham\/?p=400"},"modified":"2013-11-04T22:04:12","modified_gmt":"2013-11-04T22:04:12","slug":"how-do-you-forgive-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/safeplacewithruthgraham\/2013\/11\/how-do-you-forgive-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"How Do You Forgive Yourself?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When we make a mistake it is easy to forgive ourselves &#8211; of course, depending on the mistake. I am thinking of a minor infraction &#8211; getting a speeding ticket. But if we repeat that mistake it becomes a little harder to forgive ourselves. And more than twice it becomes a real \u00a0struggle to forgive yourself.<\/p>\n<p>If we continue to drive down the same stretch of road and continue to get speeding tickets you have to ask yourself ,&#8221;why&#8221;? Why do you keep making the same mistake over and over?<\/p>\n<p>Of course when we fail in a big way, going against what we know to be right and against our value system, it only takes one time. We feel shame. Regret. Fear. For instance, if you are unfaithful to your spouse &#8211; it&#8217;s against your value system. You knew better but did it anyway. There is shame, regret. You are shocked at yourself. How do you forgive yourself?<\/p>\n<p>I want to hear from you all &#8211; how do <strong>you<\/strong> forgive yourself?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When we make a mistake it is easy to forgive ourselves &#8211; of course, depending on the mistake. I am thinking of a minor infraction &#8211; getting a speeding ticket. But if we repeat that mistake it becomes a little harder to forgive ourselves. 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