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<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n So forty percent of <\/p>\n <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Then there’s marital <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Passion in marriage is <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Does it matter that <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n I could spend a month <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Sigmund Freud famously <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Nearly a century <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n What does a woman <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Everyone thinks that <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Your parents can do <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n But when a boy who <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n When you think of it, <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Yet, every Hollywood <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Only marriage – rather <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Wow. When a man makes <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n We can fix this, of <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n And that’s my <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n So why didn’t I <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" So forty percent of Americans in a Pew Research and Time magazine poll think that marriage is caput. And who can blame them? Marriage in our time is such a bore that eighty percent of married couples use their one date night a week, usually a Saturday, to go to a movie. Here…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":203,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-84","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-relationships","category-religion-and-spirituality","category-values"],"yoast_head":"\n
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\nAmericans in a Pew Research and Time magazine poll think that marriage is
\ncaput. And who can blame them? Marriage in our time is such a bore that eighty
\npercent of married couples use their one date night a week, usually a Saturday,
\nto go to a movie. Here they have an evening to finally get to know each other
\nagain as man and woman rather than Mom and Dad and the silence is so deafening
\nthat they require Hollywood noise to fill the empty spaces.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
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\nsex, which has become so pathetic that, as I reported in my book The Kosher
\nSutra, one out of three American married couples are entirely platonic while
\nthe remaining seventy percent have sex once a week for seven minutes at a time,
\nwhich includes the time he spends begging.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nplummeting while divorce is skyrocketing. Visit the average American master
\nbedroom and you’ll see a giant, cathedral-like TV. Husband and wives have
\nexchanged erotic desire for HBO because at least the people on the screen are
\ndoing it.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nmarriage is dying? Isn’t it enough for people just to commit and love each
\nother outside the framework of any institution?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nanswering that question in the positive, but here let me use just a few lines.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nwrote, “The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not
\nyet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine
\nsoul, is ‘What does a woman want?”<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nlater, I, Rabbi Shmuley, a man deeply in touch with his feminine side, will now
\nprovide the response.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nwant? To be chosen. There, it’s settled. Now let me explain.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nwomen want to be loved. True, but woefully shortsighted. If they wanted to be
\nloved they would never move out of their parents’ home. Noone will every love
\nwith you with as much unconditional affection and acceptance as your Mom and
\nDad. So why do women seek the love of a complete stranger?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nmany things for you. They can adore you and cherish you. But they can’t choose
\nyou. If your Mom tells you you’re the most beautiful girl in the whole class
\nyou roll your eyes. You know she has a genetic shotgun to her head compelling
\nher to say it. She has no choice. Her words therefore don’t make you feel
\nspecial.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\ncould have said the same thing to fifty girls in class tells you you’re the
\nmost beautiful you feel special. It must be true.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\neven without the modern marital problems of passionlessness and divorce I
\ndetailed above, marriage is a really bad deal for a woman. She has to give up
\nher name, literally. She has kids and compromises her figure. She gets saddled
\nwith eighty percent of the housework. She often gives up her career as she
\nbecomes a Mom. Who would be stupid enough to accept this lousy offer?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nromance, the vast majority of whose viewers are women, ends in a wedding. The
\naudience demands it. Why? Because marriage provides the one thing that a woman
\nmost wants, namely, to be chosen. To have her uniqueness validated by a man
\nmaking her his one and only. Every woman wants to be the sun with a man placing
\nher at the center of his universe where he will remain permanently in orbit,
\nbasking in her light.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nthan living together or going out – provides for a true act of chosenness. In
\nessence, a man makes a public declaration to a woman, “I am choosing you. There
\nare many beautiful women. But you are the most beautiful. There are many
\nspecial women. But you are the most special. And with you I have so found what
\nI have been looking for that I am prepared to de-select three billion other
\nwomen by publicly taking myself off the market, right here, in front of
\neveryone. Before you I had a house but with you I have a home. You are my soul
\nmate.”<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nthat declaration, you feel mighty special. So why are so many women souring on
\nmarriage? Because they witness many of their friends being neglected in
\nmarriage, even after the declaration is made. They see husbands becoming couch
\npotatoes, TV connoisseurs, and porn addicts. They hear about quickie sex
\nlasting a couple of minutes that leaves women utterly unsatisfied. And they
\nwonder why they should make all the sacrifices of marriage if they won’t be
\nchosen in return.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\ncourse, by men becoming gentlemen again and prioritizing their wives and
\nfamilies above all else.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nperspective on why marriage, even in this deeply cynical age, is so important
\nand deeply accords with the innermost desires of human nature. Admittedly, it’s
\na feminine perspective, explaining why marriage is so important to women.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
\nexplain it from a male perspective as well? Because the only men who still want
\nto get married in America are gay. While the gay guys are petitioning the
\nSupreme Court for the right to tie the knot, the straight guys are running to
\nthe hills begging their gay brothers not to ruin the party.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n