{"id":945,"date":"2010-11-17T11:08:59","date_gmt":"2010-11-17T11:08:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/2010\/11\/rise-grind-wednesday-dont.html"},"modified":"2010-11-17T11:08:59","modified_gmt":"2010-11-17T11:08:59","slug":"rise-grind-wednesday-dont","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2010\/11\/rise-grind-wednesday-dont.html","title":{"rendered":"Rise & Grind Wednesday – Don’t Should On Me!"},"content":{"rendered":"

You Really SHOULD, You know …You MUST! You, yes, you have to! <\/em>
\nNobody likes to be told what to do. Nobody likes to hear “You SHOULD” …”You MUST” … “You HAVE to.” And YET!!! … We are constantly telling ourselves what to do.
\nThink about how often the word “should” comes up in your thoughts. “I should do this; I should do that. I must do this; I must do that. I have to do this; I have to do that.”<\/em> All day long, we are shouting (yes, SHOUTING) orders at ourselves.
\nWhy is SHOULD soooooo irritating?<\/strong>
\nPerhaps understanding why the ‘should, must, and have to’s’ are so irritating might help.
\nThey imply obligation. You agree that you ‘should,’ but you don’t ‘want to.’ So, if you do what you ‘should do,’ resentment bubbles up, and if you don’t do what you ‘should’ do, you feel guilty, bad, feelings of failure surface. A no win situation, for sure!
\nWith regard to permanent fat removal, would it be fair to say that you may have at one time or another thought that you ‘should’ lose weight? Or that you ‘must’ reduce your size? Or that you ‘have to’ exercise … really you ‘have to!’
\nAnd I’m guessing that you are so annoyed with it all that you give up, that you go and eat a donut (or some other form of the devil’s food) to get you through the frustration or just to plain rebel.
\nYour Inner Rebel.<\/strong>
\nIf you feel upset, bothered, aggravated or just plain peeved when the ‘should’s’ start to
\ncome up, know that your inner rebel has been activated.
\nYou may now want to have a different kind of dialogue with yourself. Here follow three powerful questions that will help you change your inner-dialogue!
\n3 Weight Loss Success Coaching Questions to Chew On.<\/strong>
\nHow will your life change when you no longer obsess about food?
\nHow will you feel when weight is no longer an issue?
\nWhat does your guilt-free, no should about it, life look like?
\nSpread the word … NOT the icing,
\nJanice Taylor<\/em>
\nWeight Loss Success Coach
\nwise * fun * utterly useful<\/em>
\n———————————
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\n“Janice Taylor is a kooky kind of genius. See if her idiosyncratic diet plan will work for you.” ~ O, the Oprah Magazine<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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