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Tushkateers, Seriously, how selfish are you?\u00a0 Because…People tell me that they just don’t have time to take care of themselves; they say that there’s no time to do things that they need<\/em> to do for themselves to be fully happy and healthy.\u00a0 They tell me that if they were to take care of themselves first and foremost that would mean that they are selfish.\u00a0 Selfish equals bad.\u00a0 And bad is generally accompanied by platters full of guilt.\u00a0 Sound familiar?<\/p>\n

Well, I am here to encourage you to question that somewhat skewed “selfish” belief system.\u00a0 “Selfish” has gotten a bad rap!\u00a0\u00a0 All selfish means is that you care enough about yourself to get your needs met<\/i>.\u00a0\u00a0 And yes, you may need to put yourself ahead of others to do so, but seriously folks – as Eda LeShan* said, “When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly about other people.”<\/p>\n

Need vs. Want:<\/i> Needs and wants are very different.\u00a0 I need to take some time to walk daily in order to exercise my body, clear my head, breathe deep, calm myself, so that I can create health, be present and have a productive day.\u00a0\u00a0 However, I may want to take all the papers on my desk and burn them, and head off in an R.V. to the Rocky Mountains for a year, without leaving a forwarding address!<\/p>\n

Giving yourself what you fully need is the same as feeding your soul!<\/i> The ‘thing’ that you are giving yourself is helping you to be your authentic self, to operate at your very best.\u00a0 The more selfish or self-full you become, the more you have to give.<\/p>\n

Today, please be SELF-FULL!<\/b>\u00a0 When you need<\/b> to do something for yourself and \u2028\u2028your inner lights start blinking\u00a0\u00a0 …\u2028\u2028“Guilt” \u2028”Can’t” \u2028”Selfish”\u2028<\/b><\/p>\n

… <\/b>\u00a0STOP!!<\/strong>!\u00a0 for one brief moment or two and ask yourself:<\/p>\n

Is this something that I need to do to feed my soul?\u00a0 If yes, do it!!!
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*Eda LeShan (June 6, 1922 – March 3, 2002) was an American writer, television host, counselor, educator, and playwright.\u00a0 She was a “voice of respect for the inherent integrity of children.”\u00a0 LeShan’s books include When Your Child Drives You Crazy, The Conspiracy Against Childhood<\/i>, and It’s Better to be Over the Hill than Under It<\/i>. She was the host of How Do Your Children Grow?<\/i> on PBS in the 1970s.<\/p>\n

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