{"id":5542,"date":"2014-03-18T15:42:41","date_gmt":"2014-03-18T19:42:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/?p=5542"},"modified":"2014-03-18T15:42:41","modified_gmt":"2014-03-18T19:42:41","slug":"kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-10-ways-to-survive-the-many-and-unpredictable-pitfalls-of-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2014\/03\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-10-ways-to-survive-the-many-and-unpredictable-pitfalls-of-life.html","title":{"rendered":"Kick in the Tush Tuesday: 10 Ways to Survive the Many and Unpredictable Pitfalls of Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"kickHowdy Tushkateers,<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0 I received an email from Tushkateer Jo McC, she who is apparently “sinking fast.”\u00a0 Please read through and let us know how you might deal with the major ups n\u2019 downs that life presents! Oy vey!<\/p>\n

Dear OLofWL ~<\/strong><\/em> I am having a rough time of it.\u00a0 The short of it: I sold my house as a \u201cshort sale,\u201d a long and complicated method, albeit a necessity.\u00a0 As I enter month seven, after having been told that the sale was approved and escrow opened, I am now being told that the 2nd<\/sup> lien holder has not approved the sale.<\/p>\n

I am staying in a tiny room at my daughter\u2019s house, with my 100+ pound dog.<\/p>\n

I have allowed all this to throw me into a depression, and of course, what do I do?\u00a0 I eat, and eat and eat gaining back what I lost plus some.<\/p>\n

I know that I need to find more adaptive ways to channel my frustration, my anger, my upset, but everything costs money and I can\u2019t spend nor can I charge.<\/p>\n

Are you ready for the pi\u00e8ce de r\u00e9sistance?\u00a0 Yesterday, while driving, I got a ticket for talking on my cell phone. LOL!<\/p>\n

I think that I am coming close to some sort of breakdown.\u00a0 I cry at the least little thing and that just not like me at all.\u00a0 What to do? Help! ~ Jo McC., Sinking Fast<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Dear Jo ~<\/strong><\/em> I empathize, truly, as I am certain we all do.\u00a0\u00a0 The ups and downs of life are really something else. Geeze Louise, curve balls coming out of left field.\u00a0 Ouch!\u00a0 And, when that curve ball does come into play, when a difficult period rolls in, our minds (your mind, my mind) tend to run wild, churning up an onslaught of negative and fear-filled thoughts.<\/p>\n

We desperately want to and try to create lives that are controllable, definable and predictable.<\/p>\n

And, there you are, Jo, thinking that the sale of your home is finally moving forward.\u00a0 You are imagining that some semblance of order will be restored.<\/p>\n

What to do?<\/b>\u00a0\u00a0 Here follows a mix of what I think of as spiritual and practical ways for you to get through this.\u00a0 Some are more about your inner state; and some the outer world.<\/p>\n

10 Ways to Survive the Many and Unpredictable Pitfalls of Life<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Feel.<\/b>\u00a0 There is a difference between feeling sad and being depressed.\u00a0 Feel sad.\u00a0 Feel angry.\u00a0 Allow yourself to feel.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0 Cry.<\/b>\u00a0 Crying is an expression of emotion, an outlet for our feelings. Tears put us in touch with our humanness.\u00a0 Crying often makes us feel better.\u00a0 Give yourself permission to cry.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0 Accept.<\/b> We desperately want to and try to create lives that are controllable and predictable. Life is neither of those things. The path of resistance creates great suffering. Walk the path of acceptance.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0 Think Again.<\/b> If you hear any \u201cfood\u201d thoughts, remind yourself that overeating, stuffing down your feelings and gaining weight will not help.\u00a0 Think again!<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0 Breathe.<\/b>\u00a0 Here is a short breathing exercise that does three miraculous things.\u00a0 It calms, it moves you away from your thoughts and into your body, and it moves you into the moment.\u00a0 Be here NOW
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6.\u00a0 <\/b>Walk\/Bike.\u00a0 <\/b>Walking and biking are free.<\/p>\n

7.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/b>Snap It.\u00a0 <\/b>If I remember correctly, Joanne, you are a kick tush photographer.\u00a0 Taking photos is free. <\/b><\/p>\n

8.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/b>New Friends.\u00a0 <\/b>Check your local listings for any and all meet ups\/happenings\/group activities that might be of interest to you.\u00a0 You can go and explore, try \u2018em on for size.<\/p>\n

9.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/b>Volunteer.\u00a0 <\/b>A sure way to get out of a funk is to give, give, give.\u00a0 It\u2019ll lift your spirits, for sure.<\/p>\n

10.\u00a0 Laugh.<\/b>\u00a0 Based on your \u201cLOL\u201d with regard to the ticket you recently received for talking on your cell phone while driving, I\u2019m glad that you could laugh that one off.<\/p>\n

For more tips on how to survive, plain n’ simple, join Our Lady of Weight Loss’s\u00a0 Kick in the Tush Club\/FB<\/a>!<\/p>\n

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