{"id":5159,"date":"2013-09-17T14:20:31","date_gmt":"2013-09-17T18:20:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/?p=5159"},"modified":"2013-09-17T14:23:43","modified_gmt":"2013-09-17T18:23:43","slug":"kick-tush-tuesday-7-tips-what-to-do-when-feeling-judged","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2013\/09\/kick-tush-tuesday-7-tips-what-to-do-when-feeling-judged.html","title":{"rendered":"Kick Tush Tuesday: 7 Tips – What to Do When Feeling Judged?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"smileEvery so often, someone says something to me about my newly found thinness that is upsetting and sends me reeling. (<\/b>Yes, it\u2019s been twelve years since I permanently removed over 50 pounds, but it still feels newly found. Until I have lived more years thin than fat, I believe that I will consider myself newly thin.)<\/i><\/p>\n

Attacks have been made on my weigh-of-life \u2013 some critical of my eating style, some critical of my tight jeans, some lash out over my arched eyebrows, some don\u2019t love my big hair (the nerve!).<\/i><\/p>\n

When we change in any way, shape or form, it can upset another\u2019s apple cart. Change tends to unnerve people.<\/p>\n

The attacker is more than likely overcome by a flurry of uncomfortable feelings. If they feel threatened by your new lifestyle, your new svelteness, your beauty, your calm, your fabulous hair \u2026 anything \u2026 they may lash out. Their emotions are spilling out and over.<\/p>\n

What to do when Judged:
\n7 Tips ~
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  1. Stay cool man, real cool.<\/b> \u2013 No point in escalating the negative vibes.<\/li>\n
  2. Don\u2019t take it personally. <\/b>It\u2019s not about you. You are not responsible for the attackers issues.<\/li>\n
  3. Do NOT counter attack<\/b>. If you feel compelled to say something, simply express how you felt when they said what they said. You do not want to escalate the ‘war.’<\/li>\n
  4. Take in a deep breath<\/b>. Breathe out an audible \u201cHaaaaaaaaa.\u201d<\/li>\n
  5. Smile<\/b>. Send a friendly signal.<\/li>\n
  6. Walk away<\/b>.\u00a0 If still frustrated, angry, ready to return the attack, simply walk away.<\/li>\n
  7. Remember<\/b>:\u00a0 You cannot control other people\u2019s actions, but you can control your own.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    What\u2019s your \u2018stay cool\u2019 strategy?\u00a0 For tips, utterly useful conversation and love,<\/b> join Our Lady of Weight Loss<\/a>\u2019s Club:\u00a0 Kick in the Tush Club\/FB.<\/a>Deliciously yours,<\/p>\n

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