{"id":477,"date":"2009-07-20T10:12:42","date_gmt":"2009-07-20T10:12:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/2009\/07\/drop-dead-diva-judging-fat-peo.html"},"modified":"2009-07-20T10:12:42","modified_gmt":"2009-07-20T10:12:42","slug":"drop-dead-diva-judging-fat-peo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2009\/07\/drop-dead-diva-judging-fat-peo.html","title":{"rendered":"Drop Dead Diva: Judging Fat People"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"KICKOL-LOGO.jpg\"<\/span>Once upon a time, many fat moons ago,<\/strong> when I was at my heaviest in all possible ways (both body and soul)<\/em>, I took a mid-day break from the madness.
\nDressed loosely in what could have been characterized as a ‘moo moo,’ I set ‘sail’ across Madison Avenue in search of a steak roll-up.
\nMidway across the divide, I heard the honk of a full-sized truck and the bellow of its driver, “Hey Lady! I know you’re too old to be pregnant. MOVE IT!” <\/strong>
\nOuch!<\/strong> Double injury. Fat and old.
\nThis week’s episode of Drop Dead Diva<\/a> touched on the many cruel and insensitive things that are said to and thought about ‘fat’ people.
\nJudgment 101: The WHY of it.<\/strong>
\nHave you ever wondered why we are so fond of judging each other? We all do it. Don’t we? We judge people every day by the way they look, dress, walk, talk, think, and how they act.
\nWe are judging machines. What’s it all about? Why do we partake in something so hurtful and low?
\nThe Bible says, “Judge not, lest you be judged.”<\/em>
\nOne of the moral disciplines of the Buddhist Eightfold Path is “Right Speech.” Right Speech suggests that we do not “slander others or speak in a way that causes disharmony or enmity”<\/em> nor should we “indulge in idle talk or gossip.”<\/em>
\nIn Talmudic tradition, it is believed that the evil tongue, “Lashon ha-ra,”<\/em> is a weapon of destruction, one that spreads hatred, lies and most of all slander.
\nAnd yet we continue to judge.<\/strong>
\nJudgment stems from fear. It is a dysfunctional way of protecting ourselves. We project how we feel about ourselves onto others. We put them down so that we can feel superior and bring ourselves up.
\nFood for thought.<\/strong>
\nHow many times a day do you judge others or have negative thoughts about others? How many times a day do you look at someone and reject them because you don’t like the way they look? Too fat? Too thin? Too ugly? Too pretty?
\nJoin with Our Lady of Weight Loss’s KICK IN THE TUSH CLUB<\/a> and me, as we practice “Right Speech” for the next 24 hours.
\nOne day a time!
\nMore to chew over.<\/strong>
\nDrop Dead Diva: <\/a>Thin girl dies, steps into fat body
\nGastric Bypass<\/a>: How much is ‘fat’ costing Americans?
\nDiets don’t work: <\/a>A Kick in the Tush Does!
\nEat This:<\/a> Lose 50 Pounds
\nSpread the word … NOT the icing,
\nJanice<\/em>
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\n\"ART<\/span> <\/a> about Janice<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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