{"id":4553,"date":"2013-02-05T11:14:26","date_gmt":"2013-02-05T16:14:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/?p=4553"},"modified":"2013-02-05T11:14:26","modified_gmt":"2013-02-05T16:14:26","slug":"kick-tush-tuesday-6-steps-let-go-of-extra-heavy-weight-a-k-a-the-lettuce-is-to-blame","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2013\/02\/kick-tush-tuesday-6-steps-let-go-of-extra-heavy-weight-a-k-a-the-lettuce-is-to-blame.html","title":{"rendered":"Kick Tush Tuesday – 6 Steps: Let Go of Extra Heavy Weight a.k.a. The Lettuce is to Blame"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don\u2019t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.\u00a0 Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. ~ Thich Nhat Hanh\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

BLAME the LETTUCE<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Hey there, Hi there, Ho there Tushkateers <\/strong>(members of the Kick in the Tush Club)!<\/strong>\u00a0 This morning, while searching for quotes that set my mind to planting seeds of love, harmony, peace and all things kind and gentle, I came across the above from Thich Nhat Hanh, which gave pause for thought!<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Have you ever blamed the lettuce?\u00a0 Me neither; nor have I blamed the houseplants on my windowsill.\u00a0 As for not blaming other people, well–I confess; that’s a harder nut to crack.\u00a0 It’s not so black n’ white; so many shades of gray and opportunities to support my “blaming the other.” \u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Still–since the quote and the topic “blame” has made its way into my consciousness, I’ve decided that this is as good a day as any to look at “blame” and in the process, perhaps let go of some extra heavy baggage.\u00a0 Care to join, care to lighten your load? <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

6 Steps:\u00a0 Letting Go of Extra Heavy Baggage a.k.a. The Lettuce is To Blame<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

1.\u00a0 Choose One:\u00a0<\/strong> Pull a card, any card, from your Rolodex of Blame.\u00a0 There must be someone you blame for something; no?\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

2.\u00a0 Ask: “How did I help to create the problem?”\u00a0<\/strong> Consider the possibility that there were two (or more) people in the room and perhaps you played a part. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

3.\u00a0 Review:\u00a0 Is there another way to interpret what happened?<\/strong>\u00a0 Can you see it from a different perspective?\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

4.\u00a0 Lessons:<\/strong>\u00a0 Now that you can see it from another perspective and are honest with yourself about your choices and actions, you can wonder, are there any possible lessons to be learned<\/strong>?\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

5.\u00a0 Baggage:\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>Let go of your attachment to the problem or the “problem person” <\/span><\/span><\/strong>lest it weighs you down, down, down. \u00a0<\/span><\/span>Drop the blame and move on. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

6.\u00a0 Blame It on the Bossa Nova.<\/strong>\u00a0 If all fails, if you are stuck in blame mode, not willing to move on, then…blame it on the bossa nova!\u00a0<\/span><\/span>http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=PaRlW-jz1QQ <\/a><\/p>\n

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