{"id":4359,"date":"2012-11-27T14:32:38","date_gmt":"2012-11-27T19:32:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/?p=4359"},"modified":"2012-11-27T14:32:38","modified_gmt":"2012-11-27T19:32:38","slug":"kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-mother-on-the-verge","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/11\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-mother-on-the-verge.html","title":{"rendered":"Kick in the Tush Tuesday: Mother on the Verge"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/span><\/span><\/strong>So, really, seriously, how are you?\u00a0 After Thanksgiving?\u00a0 Did you make it through unscathed?\u00a0 Did you gain a pound, lose a pound, stay the same? Were you and your family\/friends in total sync, smiling, laughing it up, sending love vibes, complimenting each other throughout the day\/the weekend?\u00a0 Like a Norman Rockwell painting?<\/p>\n

As for me, I definitely ate more than I normally do, but as soon as the holiday was over, the overeating came to a halt.\u00a0 The big difference between “then” (a decade ago, before I traveled the road to Sveltesville with Our Lady of Weight Loss by my side)\u00a0 and “now” (50 pounds permanently removed), is that there is no beating up of self.\u00a0 Whatever I ate, no biggie. I joyfully chanted Our Lady of Weight Loss<\/a>‘s mantra, “All Is Forgiven, Move On<\/a>” and moved on.\u00a0\u00a0 Life’s not long enough to get in a twist at myself for what I ate over a holiday weekend.\u00a0 You dig?\u00a0\u00a0 (Who says that anymore? \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

More importantly, for me, anyway – was to stay present in the “miracle” (yup, I’m still in miracle mode. see last KICK<\/a>), and appreciate the loving folk in my life.\u00a0 Those who I spent Thanksgiving weekend with, on one day or another.\u00a0 Speaking of spending time with family during the holidays, I’d love to share an email I received from “mother” R.D. from Oregon.<\/p>\n

Dear OLofWL ~<\/strong><\/em> I can’t stop eating and here’s why. For years — no decades — we (my husband and kids) celebrated Thanksgiving and Christmas together.\u00a0 We ate turkey, we roasted marshmallows, we drank eggnog, we opened gifts, we played games.\u00a0 It was perfect.\u00a0 But one day, the kids grew up and got married and had kids of their own, and now they are here, there and everywhere.\u00a0 Sometimes with us, sometimes not.\u00a0 Bottom line, the traditions have been blown to bits, and I am left feeling empty, and that is why I can’t stop eating!\u00a0 I don’t know that you can help me.\u00a0 You can’t call my children and tell them that I’m miserable (can you?) and that they better come home now (can you?).\u00a0 Thanks for letting me vent! ~ R.D., Mother in Oregon<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Dear R.D. ~<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0 I feel your pain.\u00a0 Kids do grow up and move out, move on, create families of their own.\u00a0 It happens.\u00a0 And, while you didn’t say it in your email to me, I am willing to bet that you are happy that they did.\u00a0 You’re happy that they’re happy.<\/p>\n

The best I can tell you is this.\u00a0 Something I learned from a friend, who learned it from her mother-in-law!\u00a0\u00a0 When my friend was married with young children, she and her husband decided that it was just too much to visit both sets of parents in one day.\u00a0 She gingerly mentioned it to her mother-in-law who immediately took the high road.\u00a0 MIL said, “It’s the holiday season.\u00a0 As long as we get together during the season, carve out one special day for us, I’m happy.”<\/p>\n

R.D. —<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1.\u00a0 Feel Your Feelings.<\/strong> Feelings come and go. Feelings are a natural occurrence.\u00a0 Express them in a safe way, to the right person (as you did in your email to me, brava!).<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0 Take the High Road.<\/strong>\u00a0 It’s the Holiday season — not a day or a week — a full 5 weeks.\u00a0 Carve out another day and declare it your special and holy-day.\u00a0 You have no idea how much everyone will appreciate your happy and generous perspective.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0 Let Go of the “I Can’t Stop” Mentality.<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 I’m not saying that it’s easy to change the way you see things, feel about things or react to things, but it does not fall into the “I can’t” column.\u00a0 I can’t grow another foot taller.\u00a0 I can’t be naturally blonde.\u00a0 I can adjust my expectations, manage my emotions and I can steer clear of the buffet table.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0 Fill Up on Gratitude.\u00a0<\/strong> At the risk of sounding corny, if you are eating because you are empty, then fill up on gratitude.\u00a0 Make a list of at least 10 things you have to be grateful about. Do it now!\u00a0 It’s an amazingly simple and effective antidote.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0 Move On.<\/strong>\u00a0 Going out on a limb here, noting that your kids have kids, I’m guessing that this isn’t the first year that you feel empty and upset around the holiday schedule.\u00a0 Let it go and move on!<\/p>\n

Again, I’m not saying that what you are feeling is not valid.\u00a0 And I’m not saying that it’s easy to change the way we feel and think, but it is absolutely doable and it feels far better than the alternative.\u00a0\u00a0 Let the emotional holiday baggage go and move into the holiday ‘lite.’<\/p>\n

Wishing you a joyous holiday season! ~ OLofWL<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Tushkateers, Weigh-in at the Kick in the Tush Club<\/a> on Facebook<\/a> and be sure to reserve your seat at the Holiday Diet table! REGISTER NOW!<\/a>\u00a0 Expect a miracle!!!<\/p>\n

Spread the word–NOT the icing!
\nJanice<\/p>\n

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