{"id":4141,"date":"2012-10-03T10:52:26","date_gmt":"2012-10-03T14:52:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/?p=4141"},"modified":"2012-10-03T10:59:28","modified_gmt":"2012-10-03T14:59:28","slug":"quirky-wisdom-5-ways-to-stop-worrying-about-what-others-think","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/10\/quirky-wisdom-5-ways-to-stop-worrying-about-what-others-think.html","title":{"rendered":"Quirky Wisdom: 5 Ways to Stop Worrying … about what others think !!!"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I know for sure that the great majority of us spend a good deal of time wondering, speculating, considering and even worrying about what other people think of us.<\/p>\n

AND …<\/p>\n

… Sometimes we use this preoccupation to over-indulge, to stuff ourselves silly.\u00a0 As a result, we veer off the Road to Sveltesville – big time with a heavy thud.<\/p>\n

People say (and maybe you do too?):<\/em><\/p>\n

If I don\u2019t eat all the food that my friend slapped onto my plate at dinner, she\u2019ll be insulted and annoyed (at me).<\/em><\/p>\n

If I don\u2019t stock the house with the cookies, cakes and chips, my husband will be upset with me and my children will be scarred for life.<\/em><\/p>\n

If I change my eating habits, people will suspect that I am on a diet, which means they\u2019ll know that I know that I \u2018need to\u2019 lose weight, and I will be filled with shame and embarrassment.<\/em><\/p>\n

Well, like I said, you are using your preoccupation with what other people think to sabotage your healthy living plans.\u00a0 And even worse \u2026 you are wasting your mental energy and mental space worrying about \u2018this.\u2019\u00a0 (I want to say \u2018crap,\u2019 but maybe that\u2019s too crass.)<\/em><\/p>\n

Chew On This:<\/em>\u00a0 There might be something more important, more meaningful to wonder about, consider, and think about than what other people think about you in general, and specifically your food choices.<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0 You could de-clutter<\/strong> your physical environment.\u00a0 Like clear off those piles of papers on your dining room table, pay your bills, and then take in a deep cleansing breath of clear and clean air.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0 Maybe play<\/strong> with your kids or your grandkids, or call them if they\u2019re all grown up and out of the house.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3.\u00a0 Read<\/strong> a book.\u00a0 Heck, even write<\/strong> a book!<\/strong><\/p>\n

4.\u00a0 Learn<\/strong> a new instrument.\u00a0 (Smiling here!\u00a0 As you may know, I\u2019m 4 days into learning the Ukulele and wow, am I bad … as in good?)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

5.\u00a0 Make love.<\/strong>\u00a0 If you\u2019re a solo-act, try reading \u201cSex for One<\/a>\u201d by Betty Dodson.\u00a0 Whether solo or a duet, order a rose-quartz \u201cLove Wand.\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n

Bottom line:<\/em><\/p>\n

Stressing<\/strong> about what other people think is<\/strong> \u2013 in plain English – an energy suck<\/strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Judgment kills love<\/strong>. If they want to judge you and kill love, again – that\u2019s their business.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You love you<\/strong> and use your precious and limited time and energy to create, to be \u2018of value\u2019 according to your values, according to your standards.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

What do you think?\u00a0 <\/em><\/strong>
\nAre you ready to let go of other people\u2019s opinions, judgments, thoughts about you?<\/p>\n

Let this be your mantra:<\/em>\u00a0 \u201cWhat other people think about me is their business.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Live … Love … Create!<\/p>\n

For more discussion on this topic or the topic of your choice, be sure to visit a Kick in the Tush Club<\/a> on Facebook<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Spread the word \u2026 not the icing!<\/p>\n

Janice
\n<\/em>Life & Wellness Coach, Author, Weight Loss Artist
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