{"id":4085,"date":"2012-09-18T13:27:16","date_gmt":"2012-09-18T17:27:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/?p=4085"},"modified":"2012-09-18T13:27:16","modified_gmt":"2012-09-18T17:27:16","slug":"kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html","title":{"rendered":"Kick in the Tush Tuesday: 5 Signs – Are You Self-Sabotaging?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\n

\"\"<\/a>
join Kick in the Tush Club – with Janice Taylor, Life and Wellness Coach, Author, Weight Loss Artist<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Self sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure that it doesn\u2019t happen.\u00a0 ~ Alyce P. Cornyn<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

\n

Bonjour, Good Day, Shalom and What’s up TUSHKATEERS!!!!<\/em>\u00a0 <\/strong>How goes it?\u00a0 What’s happening in your neck of the woods?\u00a0 All groovy here!\u00a0 More or less.\u00a0 Depending on your definition of groovy, and your slant\/ability\/determination to go with the flow, as unexpected happenings happen.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

\n

For instance, you go to a reputable place for a brow wax, a place you’ve been to many times, and let’s just say that they go too far!\u00a0 Do you freak out?\u00a0 Do you hit the ice cream emporium on the way home?\u00a0 Or maybe head straight to the fridge for a full tilt when you arrive home?\u00a0 Do you try to soothe yourself using maladaptive ways that ultimate sabotage every inch of the weigh?\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

NO!!!\u00a0 No, you make sure you have bangs to cover the damage and you stop at the local cosmetic place and ask for a make-over, buying their most expensive brow pencils.\u00a0 Maybe you freak out for a minute or two – maybe even 10, but then you put a lid on it – and you don’t sabotage your entire day, week, month or life.\u00a0 You steer clear of the Super-Highway to SABOTAGE!\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Which brings me to an email I received from Tushkateer Joyce R. which just happens to be about SABOTAGE!!! <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

CHEWING THE FAT<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Dear OLofWL ~ <\/strong><\/em>I don’t quite understand it.\u00a0 I wake up in the morning and say to myself, “Yay!\u00a0 It’s a brand new day!\u00a0 A new start!\u00a0 It is full of possibilities and opportunities, and full of fruits, veggies, whole foods and portion control.”\u00a0 My breakfast is a good one, my lunch, too, but somewhere in the day, something happens.\u00a0 I’m not quite sure what, but I switch tracks and I’m off and running, sabotaging my morning success, sabotaging the ultimate goal I’ve set for myself.\u00a0 Goal:\u00a0 Eat healthy. Let go of the excess weight.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Why do I keep sabotaging myself?<\/strong><\/em><\/span>\u00a0 How can I STOP SABOTAGING myself?\u00a0 HELP! Please … ~ Joyce R. <\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Dear Joyce R. ~ <\/strong><\/em>Needless to say (but I’ll say it anyway)<\/em>, there is so much I could say in answer to your email – too much for these pages, so let’s narrow it down to a mini-discussion on sabotage that may shed LITE on the topic!\u00a0 Okay? Okay!<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

What is Sabotage?<\/strong><\/span><\/em><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Sabotage<\/strong> is an intentional act of destruction<\/strong>.\u00a0 Someone messes up<\/strong> something on purpose<\/strong>.\u00a0 Self-Sabotage<\/strong> is something you do to yourself when you feel you don’t deserve good things to happen to you<\/strong>; when you feel defeated<\/strong>.\u00a0 OR – when you revert to bad habits that work against you<\/strong>.\u00a0 You could get help for these self-sabotaging things that you do to yourself but you may not even know that you are self-sabotaging yourself!<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Sabotage kills confidence which sets the downward spiral into motion.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Let’s return to the brow incident.\u00a0 Suppose the ‘lack of brows,’ the odd shape of it all set me into a tailspin, sending the downward spiral in motion.\u00a0 If that were to happen, downward spiral in motion, self-doubts would set in and I might look in the mirror and say, “Oh man … It’s going to take months for my brows to return to their original shape.\u00a0 I look awful; a freak of nature. What’s the use?\u00a0 I’m never going to be okay.\u00a0 …. ”\u00a0 All leading to defeat; leading to old habits that no longer serve me.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

What a heavy load of negative self-talk, catastrophizing, expecting perfection and more …<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

8 Signs: Are You SELF-SABOTAGING Yourself?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Acts of Self-Sabotage start with self-sabotaging thoughts.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

    \n
  1. Beating yourself up,<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Playing it too safe,<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Expecting perfection,<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  4. Comparing yourself to others,<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  5. Competing too much,<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  6. Catastrophizing,<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  7. Struggling with social fears,<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  8. Experiencing too much anxiety … then you are setting yourself up for self-sabotaging behavior.<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Remember:\u00a0 Thoughts –> Feelings –> Actions –> Results <\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

    If I have self-sabotaging thoughts, I feel defeated and sad, so I eat too much to soothe myself, resulting in weight gain, which creates more self-sabotaging thoughts.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

    How to stop the cycle?\u00a0 Be aware of your thoughts.\u00a0 Turn them around.<\/span>\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

      \n
    1. Stop beating yourself up when you make mistakes.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
    2. Stop catastrophizing when the life (and the people in it) do not show up the way you want it\/them to.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
    3. Compliment yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
    4. Confidence comes from the inside.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      I hope the above provides enough food for thought to help you to begin to turn it around<\/strong>!<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

      For more discussion on this topic, be sure to visit a Kick in the Tush Club<\/a> on Facebook<\/a>!\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

       <\/p>\n

      Spread the word \u2026 not the icing!<\/p>\n

       <\/p>\n

      Janice
      \n<\/em>Life & Wellness Coach, Author, Weight Loss Artist
      \nwise * fun * utterly useful
      \n\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014
      \nFor the best life, wellness and weight loss wisdom, visit Janice:
      \nOur Lady of Weight Loss<\/a>
      \nsign up for the\u00a0      Kick in the Tush Club<\/em><\/a> e-letter
      \njoin and chat:       Facebook\/ a KICK in the TUSH CLUB<\/a><\/p>\n

       <\/p>\n

      Become a Tushkateer!\u00a0 A Tushkateer is a person who receives Our Lady of Weight Loss\u2019s newsletter, called the KICK in the TUSH CLUB!!!\u00a0 Sign up and receive her weekly e-newsletter<\/a> with all the news that \u2018fit\u2019 to print, and you are automatically a Tushkateer!\u00a0 How cool is that? \":)\"<\/p>\n

       <\/p>\n


      \n<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

      Self sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure that it doesn\u2019t happen.\u00a0 ~ Alyce P. Cornyn Bonjour, Good Day, Shalom and What’s up TUSHKATEERS!!!!\u00a0 How goes it?\u00a0 What’s happening in your neck of the woods?\u00a0 All groovy here!\u00a0 More or less.\u00a0 Depending on your definition of groovy, and…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":123,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[156,2793,2,70,82,3,60,737,978,1,176,2100,369],"tags":[3820,3833,671,3826,3827,3825,85,2948,3848,2949,3837,3875,248],"class_list":["post-4085","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emotional-eating","category-happiness-tips-2","category-inspiration","category-janice-taylor","category-kick-in-the-tush-club","category-motivation","category-our-lady-of-weight-loss","category-self-confidence","category-the-happiness-diet","category-weight-loss","category-weight-loss-coach-2","category-weight-loss-success-coach","category-weight-loss-tips-2","tag-happiness","tag-healthy-living","tag-how-to-lose-weight","tag-janice-taylor","tag-kick-in-the-tush-club","tag-our-lady-of-weight-loss","tag-positive-self-talk","tag-sabotage","tag-self-confidence","tag-self-sabotage","tag-weight-loss-motivation","tag-weight-loss-success-coach","tag-weight-loss-tips"],"yoast_head":"\nKick in the Tush Tuesday: 5 Signs - Are You Self-Sabotaging? - Our Lady of Weight Loss<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Kick in the Tush Tuesday: 5 Signs - Are You Self-Sabotaging? - Our Lady of Weight Loss\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Self sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure that it doesn\u2019t happen.\u00a0 ~ Alyce P. Cornyn Bonjour, Good Day, Shalom and What’s up TUSHKATEERS!!!!\u00a0 How goes it?\u00a0 What’s happening in your neck of the woods?\u00a0 All groovy here!\u00a0 More or less.\u00a0 Depending on your definition of groovy, and…\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Our Lady of Weight Loss\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2012-09-18T17:27:16+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/files\/2012\/04\/KICKOL-LOGO-278x300.jpg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Janice Taylor, Editor\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Kick in the Tush Tuesday: 5 Signs - Are You Self-Sabotaging? - Our Lady of Weight Loss","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Kick in the Tush Tuesday: 5 Signs - Are You Self-Sabotaging? - Our Lady of Weight Loss","og_description":"Self sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure that it doesn\u2019t happen.\u00a0 ~ Alyce P. Cornyn Bonjour, Good Day, Shalom and What’s up TUSHKATEERS!!!!\u00a0 How goes it?\u00a0 What’s happening in your neck of the woods?\u00a0 All groovy here!\u00a0 More or less.\u00a0 Depending on your definition of groovy, and…","og_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html","og_site_name":"Our Lady of Weight Loss","article_published_time":"2012-09-18T17:27:16+00:00","og_image":[{"url":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/files\/2012\/04\/KICKOL-LOGO-278x300.jpg"}],"author":"Janice Taylor, Editor","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html","name":"Kick in the Tush Tuesday: 5 Signs - Are You Self-Sabotaging? - Our Lady of Weight Loss","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/files\/2012\/04\/KICKOL-LOGO-278x300.jpg","datePublished":"2012-09-18T17:27:16+00:00","dateModified":"2012-09-18T17:27:16+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/#\/schema\/person\/dc42b945b8badcadcbe5a3fc4cc5aac5"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html#primaryimage","url":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/files\/2012\/04\/KICKOL-LOGO-278x300.jpg","contentUrl":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/files\/2012\/04\/KICKOL-LOGO-278x300.jpg"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2012\/09\/kick-in-the-tush-tuesday-5-signs-are-you-self-sabotaging.html#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Kick in the Tush Tuesday: 5 Signs – Are You Self-Sabotaging?"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/","name":"Our Lady of Weight Loss","description":"Weight Loss, Diet, Exercise, Health and Wellness Advice","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/#\/schema\/person\/dc42b945b8badcadcbe5a3fc4cc5aac5","name":"Janice Taylor, Editor","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-content\/wphb-cache\/gravatar\/484\/4844b9725e31d98e40565d31193668e2x96.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-content\/wphb-cache\/gravatar\/484\/4844b9725e31d98e40565d31193668e2x96.jpg","caption":"Janice Taylor, Editor"},"sameAs":["http:\/\/www.ourladyofweightloss.com"],"url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/author\/jtaylor"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4085","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/123"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4085"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4085\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4086,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4085\/revisions\/4086"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4085"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4085"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4085"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}