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“No one is as deaf as the man who will not listen.” ~ Jewish Prove<\/em>rb
\nImagine what it would be like if we really listened to each other? You know, instead of half-listening; instead of ‘sort of’ paying attention while multi-tasking, or just plain zoning out, or – most commonly – anxiously awaiting for the ‘listenee’ (a.k.a. speaker) to pause for a millisecond, so that you can jump right in with your brilliance.
\nWell, for one thing, the person to whom you are listening would enjoy the extraordinary experience of being ‘heard,’ ‘seen,’ and ‘witnessed.’ And YOU, the person who is actively listening, would be exercising your observational powers and, in so doing, you might just perceive more than you normally do. You might understand the ‘listenee’ on a whole new level. You may have even ‘heard’ the golden nuggets of what was left unsaid!
\nWhile you are chewing on that, read on
\nThe DO NOT’s of ACTIVE LISTENING!!!<\/strong><\/em>
\nDo NOT <\/strong>allow your brain to race ahead of your lips! We speak at about 100 to 150 words per minute, but we think at 250 to 500. Just listen!<\/em><\/strong>
\nDO NOT<\/strong> anticipate what will be said. Just listen!<\/em><\/strong>
\nDO NOT<\/strong> be distracted by the people or things around you. Keep your eyes focused on the “listenee.” Just listen! <\/em><\/strong>
\nDO NOT<\/strong> interrupt. Allow her\/him to finish their thought. Just listen! <\/em><\/strong>
\nDO NOT<\/strong> plan your responses as the speaker is speaking. Just listen!<\/em><\/strong>
\nDO NOT<\/strong><\/em> give advice unless specifically asked for it. Just listen! <\/em><\/strong>
\nDO NOT<\/em><\/strong> share every single story from your own life that might relate to what the “listenee” is saying. Just listen!<\/em><\/strong>
\nIt’s not as easy as it sounds!!!
\nWHAT does this have to do with Permanent Fat Removal a.k.a. Weight Loss?<\/strong>
\nOur Lady of Weight Loss <\/a>works in with a WHOLE LIFE MODEL, which means that weight loss does not live in its little fat-free container … alone. One area of life impacts on the other. Certainly, your ability to build strong relationships with the people in your life can help to support other areas of life. Think about it!
\nAnd when you are truly paying attention to another, you are NOT thinking about yourself, or food. Isn’t that a relief?!
\nSpread the SILENT word … NOT the icing,
\nJanice<\/em>
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\nJanice Taylor is a Life & Wellness Coach, specializing in weight loss, reinvention, transformation & happiness<\/a>, author, seminar leader and 50-pound-BIG-Time-LOSER! Write Janice<\/a> for an Introductory Coaching Session.
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