{"id":2278,"date":"2011-04-19T14:42:24","date_gmt":"2011-04-19T18:42:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/ourladyofweightloss\/?p=2278"},"modified":"2011-04-19T14:42:24","modified_gmt":"2011-04-19T18:42:24","slug":"stay-fat-tuesday-be-nice-keep-denying-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/ourladyofweightloss\/2011\/04\/stay-fat-tuesday-be-nice-keep-denying-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"Stay Fat Tuesday – Be Nice, Keep Denying Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/strong><\/em>
\nChances are you\u2019ve heard about the Laws of Attraction.<\/strong> The basic concept is that you attract into your life whatever you think about. \u00a0 Positive thoughts and beliefs create a positive life; negative thoughts and beliefs attract negativity.<\/p>\n

One sure way to get those positive vibes swirling out there is to be attracted to yourself, in a healthy and self-affirming way (not in a narcissistic, oh my goodness, I\u2019m the greatest ever, where\u2019s the mirror \u2013 I need to look at myself again \u2013 kind of way)<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Truthfully, if you aren\u2019t attracted to you, if you don\u2019t fully recognize your qualities and embrace yourself, how attractive could you possibly be to the universe.<\/p>\n

One thing we don\u2019t want to do is throw a false blanket of positivity on top of a basement full of unattractive thoughts and behaviors. Let\u2019s get in there, excavate, STOP<\/strong> \u2026.. and make some mind-altering changes and create space for the positive life that we are craving!
\n
\nTop 10 Appealing, Eye-Catching and Attractive Tips
\non How to STOP Being Unattractive<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. STOP doing what is bad for you! <\/strong>
\nKeep in mind that determining what is \u201cbad\u201d is completely subjective. So dig deep and be honest. Make a list of at least ten things that you are currently doing that are bad for you \u2013 from sleeping too late, to eating too much, to dating bad boys! Or bad girls, for that matter. And then STOP doing those things!<\/p>\n

2. STOP doing what you others think you \u2018should\u2019 do!<\/strong>
\nIt\u2019s one thing to be respectful and responsive to others, and it\u2019s another to live your life the way others want you to or think that you should! You heretofore have permission to lead your own life, the way you want to. No should about it!<\/p>\n

3. STOP being so darn nice!<\/strong>
\nYou don\u2019t have to be \u2018that\u2019 nice all the time. You don\u2019t have to say \u2018yes\u2019 to requests that you want to say \u2018no\u2019 to. You don\u2019t have to smile and make small talk when you are exhausted. You can even be cranky once in a while.<\/p>\n

4. STOP moving so fast!<\/strong>
\nWould ya\u2019 please SLOW down? You\u2019re making me dizzy. I know that we all want to get from A to Z in a flash, but seriously, you\u2019re missing the nuances and beauty of the journey. Take in a deep breath, and pay attention to each and every remarkable part of your journey. You don\u2019t really want to rush through your life and miss it, do you?<\/p>\n

5. STOP trying!<\/strong>
\nAs Yoda from star wars says, \u201cDo or do not \u2026 there is no try.\u201d Every time you say that you are \u2018trying\u2019 to do something, you are essentially making certain that you have a way out. There\u2019s no commitment in \u2018trying.\u2019 How many times have you said, \u201cI\u2019ll try to make it to your party.\u201d -or- \u201cI\u2019ll try to stop by.\u201d Did you?<\/p>\n

6. STOP measuring your success by comparing yourself to others.<\/strong>
\nHuman beings have a need to make order, rank things, and create points of reference, because it helps us to make choices and set priorities in life. However, comparing ourselves to others is a trap. It only leads to jealousy, bitterness and a sense of losing when someone else is succeeding. There is nothing to compare. We are unique individuals on our uniquely individual journey.<\/p>\n

7. STOP trying to be someone else.<\/strong>
\nAs Oscar Wilde so fittingly stated, \u201cBe yourself; everyone else is already taken.\u201d Let go of worrying about how you others perceive you, think about you, or what they might be saying about you. In order to be yourself, you have to tap into and go with your inner flow. Be open and honest. You\u2019ve got absolutely nothing to hide; nothing to be ashamed of; nothing to be insecure about. Embrace your uniqueness.<\/p>\n

8. STOP reacting to life.<\/strong>
\nTake in a deep breath and start responding to life and directing it! You have an opportunity to step back and take an objective look at your unattractive knee-jerk, automated reactions to things. Take in a deep breath, and create a space in which you can take action that is in alignment with your future.<\/p>\n

9. STOP doing the same things the same way.<\/strong>
\nAt one time or another, we\u2019ve all experienced what it\u2019s like to press the print button on our keyboards and have nothing happen. What do we do when the paper doesn\u2019t print? We hit the print button again and again and again, to no avail. If your life isn\u2019t working as well as it might, try finding a new point of view!<\/p>\n

10. STOP denying yourself. <\/strong>
\nIt\u2019s okay to be selfish. If the word selfish holds a negative connotation for you, substitute the word \u2018self-full.\u2019 Take absolute care of yourself \u2013 eliminate stress, do things that bring you extreme pleasure, give yourself the things that you desire, and take time to just sit and recharge your batteries. Not only is it a good idea to be self-full, it\u2019s a generous act. There\u2019s no way you can effectively help another, if you are running on self-empty.<\/p>\n

What is unattractive about you?<\/p>\n

Spread the word \u2026 NOT the icing,<\/p>\n

Janice Taylor
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