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For Our Lady of Weight Loss’s Sake! WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE!!<\/big><\/strong><\/em>! by Janice Taylor<\/a>, Life & Wellness Coach, author, columnist and 50-pound big-time-loser.<\/em>
\nIf your thoughts and words are steeped in negativity, <\/strong>if you are telling yourself that you are struggling, that you are a loser, that you are stuck and that you are sick; what do you think the ultimate outcome, the results will be? More than likely depression and weight gain.
\nI received the following letter from one of Our Lady of Weight Loss’s readers. Knowing that she is not the only one who speaks in this manner, sees life in this way, and manifests aches and pains, I thought I would share it with you.
\nSpecial thanks to “NLP” for being brave and open and sharing her feelings and thoughts with us.
\nDear OLofW<\/strong><\/em>L ~ I have been struggling<\/big><\/em><\/strong> with weight all of my life. I am a<\/strong><\/em> yo yo weight loser<\/big><\/strong><\/em>. I am now sort of stuck<\/em><\/strong> due to Arthritis and stiffness along with other issues. But I do want to<\/em><\/strong> lose weight.
\nAfter working 36 years, I retired and got stuck<\/em><\/strong><\/big> with child caring for my two grandchildren that I love to death<\/em><\/strong>. Nevertheless, I hadn’t planned on taking care of them every day. Due to the fact that I was less sick<\/em><\/strong><\/big> than and not as selfish<\/em><\/strong> as the other grandmother, I am stuck<\/em><\/strong><\/big> with it.
\nI can<\/strong><\/em> lose weight and did, but I needed help. I went to obesity specialists who gave me b-12 shots, appetite suppressants and a diet. This was the only way<\/strong><\/em><\/big> I could lose the weight. Now I am retired, and I don’t have<\/strong><\/em> the monetary resources like I used to.
\nI have a love interest<\/em><\/strong> that I met six months ago online. A very nice gentlemen whom I will one day meet in person. I sent him a picture of me 30 pounds less than I am now<\/strong><\/em> and would love to get back to that and more. At least 75 pounds.
\nI love sweets<\/em><\/strong>; junk food; etc. But I know what I need to eat, and I know that I need to have will power<\/em><\/strong>. Thanks for any advice. ~ NLP<\/em><\/strong>
\nDear NLP ~<\/em><\/strong> If I may, I would like to look at some of the language that you are using. It may be useful to explore the thoughts that are getting in your ‘weigh,’ as you think, say and write that you CAN NOT<\/em><\/strong><\/big> lose weight and believe that you are STUCK<\/em><\/strong>, and that you have NO CHOICE<\/strong><\/em>.
\nOur thoughts manifest our realities<\/strong>. If we keep telling ourselves that we are struggling, suffering, stuck, cannot<\/em><\/strong> and have no choice,<\/strong><\/em><\/big> then that is what is so.
\nLet’s turn it around.<\/strong> There is no such thing as will power, only want power<\/strong><\/em><\/big>. You<\/strong><\/em> have to want to<\/em><\/strong> permanently remove the excess weight enough to make inner and outer changes. And I can see that you have plenty of want power<\/em><\/strong>! You have grandchildren that you want<\/em><\/strong> to be around for; you have<\/em><\/strong> a love<\/em><\/strong> interest (go girl!) and most important of all, you love yourself <\/em><\/strong>and you wan<\/em><\/strong>t to give yourself <\/strong><\/em>and your body your best life<\/strong><\/em><\/big>.
\nHealthy eating<\/strong><\/em> will have a positive effect<\/em><\/strong><\/big> on your bones, your aches and pains and your mind. Another good reason to pump up the want power<\/em><\/strong><\/big>.
\nYou are retired (woo hoo!), and you have <\/em><\/strong>the time<\/em><\/strong> and resources<\/strong><\/em> to start your own group. You know<\/em><\/strong> what to eat. You said so yourself. And you have the want power<\/em><\/strong>. Now create<\/em><\/strong><\/big> support!
\nThink Outside the Donut Box.<\/strong> Gather your friends and family and start your own Kick in the Tush Club Chapter<\/a>. It’s free. You can swap recipes, dish the dirt, support<\/em><\/strong> each other and just plain have fun<\/strong><\/em><\/big>. You can sign up for ‘the daily feed’ for my Beliefnet blog<\/a> and automatically get a very helpful<\/em><\/strong> and witty<\/em><\/strong><\/big> (if I say so myself) plateful of inspiration, motivation<\/em><\/strong> and solid information (almost) daily!
\nAnd as for having to be the full-time babysitter. You don’t have to do anything<\/em><\/strong><\/big> you don’t want<\/strong><\/em><\/big> to do. Practice saying, “No!” Help them come up with alternate plans. It’s selfish NOT to take care of yourself<\/em><\/strong>, to give yourself<\/em><\/strong> the time you deserve<\/strong><\/em><\/big>. You can’t give when your batteries are empty!
\nNow, repeat after me. I CAN <\/em><\/strong>do anything I set my mind<\/em><\/strong><\/big> to. I CAN<\/em><\/strong> give myself the time I deserve<\/em><\/strong> (after working 36 years). I CAN<\/em><\/strong><\/big> be the best ME<\/strong><\/em> ever. I CAN<\/em><\/strong>, I CAN<\/em><\/strong><\/big> … I CAN!!!! <\/strong><\/em>
\nSeriously, you can<\/strong><\/em>. I so totally believe in<\/em><\/strong> you and know that you can<\/em><\/strong><\/big>. So, get busy now turning your thoughts<\/em><\/strong> around first. Your life<\/strong><\/em><\/big> will follow. Start a KITT Club Chapter<\/a>! And keep us in your loop. Help yourself to a second helping of LIFE<\/em><\/strong><\/big>! We are rootin’ for you! ~ OLofWL<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Our Lady of Weight Loss is with you every ounce of the weigh!<\/em><\/strong><\/div>\n

Spread the word, Not the icing,
\nJanice<\/em>
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\nFor more motivation and inspiration, join the Kick in the Tush Club: Beliefnet Chapter.<\/strong> <\/strong> <\/a>
\nPick up a copy of Janice’s latest: All Is Forgiven, Move ON ~ Our Lady of Weight Loss’s 101 Fat-Burning Steps on Your Journey to Sveltesville<\/strong><\/a>!
\n” . . . . kooky genius<\/strong><\/big> ~ see if her idiosyncratic diet plan will work for you.” ~ O, The Oprah Magazine<\/em>
\n\"ART<\/span> <\/a> about Janice<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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