{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/onfire","author_name":"grose","author_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/onfire\/author\/grose\/","title":"The Paradox: For others ~ Not for others - On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"rY5DITeMJf\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/onfire\/2012\/10\/04\/the-paradox-for-others-not-for-others\/\">The Paradox: For others ~ Not for others<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/onfire\/2012\/10\/04\/the-paradox-for-others-not-for-others\/embed\/#?secret=rY5DITeMJf\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;The Paradox: For others ~ Not for others&#8221; &#8212; On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It\" data-secret=\"rY5DITeMJf\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n\/* <![CDATA[ *\/\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/* ]]> *\/\n<\/script>\n","description":"It\u2019s crazy. Our true personhood and calling flow from desiring to give something of ourselves to help others. However, others are also the #1 squelcher of our personhood and calling. How so? Abusive authority figures teach us to watch our backsides in order to survive. We learn to continually scan faces and body language for&hellip;","thumbnail_url":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/onfire\/files\/2012\/10\/3592149968_25709410c8_theirhistory@flickr-300x148.jpg"}