{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/onfire","author_name":"grose","author_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/onfire\/author\/grose\/","title":"Giving your Gift: What Works ~ what Doesn\u2019t - On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"SGcIdDYq1V\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/onfire\/2012\/09\/12\/giving-your-gift-what-works-what-doesnt\/\">Giving your Gift: What Works ~ what Doesn\u2019t<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/onfire\/2012\/09\/12\/giving-your-gift-what-works-what-doesnt\/embed\/#?secret=SGcIdDYq1V\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;Giving your Gift: What Works ~ what Doesn\u2019t&#8221; &#8212; On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It\" data-secret=\"SGcIdDYq1V\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n\/* <![CDATA[ *\/\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/* ]]> *\/\n<\/script>\n","description":"When it comes to being real and giving the Gift we&#8217;re here to give, there are two tactics that don\u2019t work\u2014and two that do. 1. Shame.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t work. Growing up, shame was the tool of choice for adults\u2014parents, teachers, and clergy\u2014 who wanted something from someone, especially those beneath them. Not surprisingly, I learned&hellip;","thumbnail_url":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/onfire\/files\/2012\/09\/4670643523_65e07dccaeNA.dir@flickr-300x200.jpg"}