{"id":10,"date":"2009-10-30T13:49:28","date_gmt":"2009-10-30T13:49:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/omsweetom\/2009\/10\/halloween.html"},"modified":"2009-10-30T13:49:28","modified_gmt":"2009-10-30T13:49:28","slug":"halloween","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/omsweetom\/2009\/10\/halloween.html","title":{"rendered":"Trick or Treat? Not quite sure."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Growing up, I always experienced Halloween as a clashing of cultures. More than any other American holiday, Halloween seemed to draw a line in the sand between the world that my Hindu immigrant parents resided in and the American suburban world around me. Since Halloween usually tends to coincide with a number of Hindu holidays (Hindus use a lunar calendar, so exact dates switch around), when Diwali happened to fall on October 31, the two holidays went head-to-head.&nbsp; Either I could go trick-or-treating and watch the <i>Nightmare on Elm Street <\/i>marathon (my desire), or visit temple and exchange sweets with relatives (my parents&#8217; orders), but I couldn&#8217;t really do both.<\/p>\n<p>Even when there wasn&#8217;t a direct conflict, though, there was always a disconnect.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;What kind of depressing holiday is this supposed to be, anyway?&#8221; my Mom would ask, disapproval in her voice as she suspiciously surveyed the plastic skeletons and cardboard tombstones now decorating our neighbors&#8217; lawns. &#8220;A waste of time,&#8221; my father would mutter even as he begrudgingly bought bags of cheap candy to hand out to trick-or-treaters. <\/p>\n<p>(Some of their more orthodox Hindu friends had even stronger objections to the holiday. &#8220;All this meditating on death and gore, and openly celebrating ghosts and goblins! It&#8217;s <i>ashubh<\/i>, inauspicious.&#8221;) <\/p>\n<p>My parents tried, of course, but somehow they were never able to quite <i>get it<\/i>. Sure, they proudly displayed the jack-o-lanterns that my sister and I carved at school; but we&#8217;d never carve one together as a family. They dutifully doled out the candy to the neighborhood kids, though without the gusto of the other parents, who&#8217;d often dress up themselves and distribute treats in character. And of course, they were content to let us go out trick-or-treating, though I can&#8217;t really remember them getting too excited about it.<\/p>\n<p>And then there was the issue of costumes. <\/p>\n<p>Most years &#8212; as long as it wasn&#8217;t too expensive &#8212; we could just convince them to buy whatever superhero or horror movie monster costume was popular that year. <\/p>\n<p>But there were those years that our parents (and other Desi parents, I&#8217;ve since learned) stumbled across what they thought was brilliance&#8211; to have us dress up as an &#8220;Indian prince&#8221; or &#8220;Indian princess&#8221;. This feat in creative laziness they accomplished by dolling us up in our finest Indian party clothes, perhaps with the addition of a makeshift turban or tiara, and sending us out to impress our candy-giving neighbors with our exotic apparel.<\/p>\n<p>The neighbors loved it, our parents felt the euphoric mix of cultural pride and saving money, and we (the Association of Involuntary Indian Princes and Princesses) thought that it was incredibly lame. <\/p>\n<p>(Full Disclosure: Years later, when we were old enough to see trick-or-treating only as a means to free candy, but still young enough to get away with it, we Indian-American kids co-opted this tactic by willingly donning our <i>kurta pyjama<\/i> or <i>salwar kameez<\/i> outfits to feed our candy fix without going through the trouble of actually buying a costume.)<\/p>\n<p>As much as we resented it, though, now that I look back at it, I can appreciate a certain mingling of cultures that it engendered. And now that I am a parent myself, I wonder about how to minimize the culture clash for my own Indian-American daughter, and how to integrate the worlds of Halloween and Hinduism for her.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small;font-family: Calibri\"><font><br \/><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<p><!--more--><br \/>\nI was discussing this with a Christian colleague yesterday, and he<br \/>\nasked what I thought about having kids dress up as Hindu deities. I<br \/>\nhave to admit, his question caught me off guard. A <i>bindi<\/i>-wearing Indian Princess is one thing, but dressing up like a goddess&#8230;?<\/p>\n<p>The<br \/>\nmore I thought about it, though, the less sure I became of how I felt<br \/>\nabout the whole thing. Would it be a celebration of Hinduism&#8217;s rich<br \/>\nimagery, or a mockery of faith? Would it provide a chance for Hindus to<br \/>\nshare their faith and beliefs with others, or just fuel stereotypes and<br \/>\nmarginalize Hindus? And how would the Hindu kids themselves feel about<br \/>\nit, anyway?<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/omsweetom\/assets_c\/2009\/10\/girl%20dressed%20as%20krishna-9007.html\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/123\/import\/assets_c\/2009\/10\/girl%20dressed%20as%20krishna-thumb-200x131-9007.jpg\" alt=\"girl dressed as krishna.jpg\" class=\"mt-image-center\" style=\"margin: 0pt auto 20px;text-align: center\" height=\"131\" width=\"200\" \/><\/a><\/span>On the hand, there <i>is<\/i> precedent for dressing<br \/>\nup as deities in Hinduism. Many parents dress their children up as Lord<br \/>\nKrishna on Krishna Janmashtami. Ramleela &#8212; dramatic re-enactments of<br \/>\nLord Rama&#8217;s epic pastimes &#8212; also involve children and adults donning<br \/>\ncostumes to depict figures such as Lord Rama, the brave Hanuman, or the<br \/>\ndastardly demon king Ravana. There&#8217;s even a Bengali tradition of<br \/>\ndressing up as the goddess Kali &#8212; blood-red tongue, carrying a<br \/>\nmachete, and wearing a garland of skulls &#8212; for the holiday of Kali<br \/>\nPuja every October\/November; undoubtedly, the closest direct link<br \/>\nbetween Halloween and Hinduism I&#8217;ve found yet . <\/p>\n<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/omsweetom\/assets_c\/2009\/10\/child%20dressed%20as%20durga-9011.html\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/123\/import\/assets_c\/2009\/10\/child%20dressed%20as%20durga-thumb-150x112-9011.jpg\" alt=\"child dressed as durga.jpg\" class=\"mt-image-left\" style=\"margin: 0pt 20px 20px 0pt;float: left\" height=\"112\" width=\"150\" \/><\/a><\/span>And&nbsp; some<br \/>\nHindu temples have started using Halloween as a way to connect Hindu<br \/>\nkids withe their culture. Our local Krishna temple in New Jersey is<br \/>\nhosting a children&#8217;s costume contest on Halloween, where the kids are<br \/>\ninvited to depict any character from Krishna&#8217;s life story.<\/p>\n<p>On<br \/>\nthe other hand, does it make a difference when the Hindu deity costume<br \/>\nis taken out of the&nbsp; context of a Hindu holiday (or a temple-sponsored<br \/>\ncostume pageant), and mapped on to the American Halloween mainstream?<br \/>\nDoes it denigrate Hinduism to have a portrayal of Lord Krishna<br \/>\nsoliciting candy door-to-door alongside Spiderman or Harry Potter? Are<br \/>\nwe putting divinity in the same character as fictional superheroes or,<br \/>\nworse yet, freaks and creatures that only get to come out into the<br \/>\nlight of day once a year? And what does that communicate about Hinduism<br \/>\namong other faiths? How would we feel about children dressing up like<br \/>\nJesus or Buddha or Mohammed for Halloween?<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/omsweetom\/assets_c\/2009\/10\/child-dressed-as-hindu-god-9014.html\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/123\/import\/assets_c\/2009\/10\/child-dressed-as-hindu-god-thumb-200x150-9014.jpg\" alt=\"child-dressed-as-hindu-god.jpg\" class=\"mt-image-center\" style=\"margin: 0pt auto 20px;text-align: center\" height=\"150\" width=\"200\" \/><\/a><\/span>And what if Hindu<br \/>\ncostumes became popular enough to attract the attention of non-Hindus?<br \/>\nDoes that change things? Is it okay to wear a costume depicting the<br \/>\ngoddess Kali because you think her look is &#8220;gruesome&#8221; and &#8220;cool&#8221; even<br \/>\nif you don&#8217;t believe in her?<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/omsweetom\/assets_c\/2009\/10\/Heidi%20Klum%20Hindu%20Goddess%20Halloween-9017.html\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/123\/import\/assets_c\/2009\/10\/Heidi%20Klum%20Hindu%20Goddess%20Halloween-thumb-150x221-9017.jpg\" alt=\"Heidi Klum Hindu Goddess Halloween.jpg\" class=\"mt-image-right\" style=\"margin: 0pt 0pt 20px 20px;float: right\" height=\"221\" width=\"150\" \/><\/a><\/span>Hollywood actress <a href=\"http:\/\/www.thaindian.com\/newsportal\/world-news\/controversy-over-heidi-klums-goddess-kali-halloween-attire_100114807.html\">Heidi Klum seemed<br \/>\nto think so<\/a> last year, and got slammed for it. In a <a href=\"http:\/\/www.intent.com\/blog\/2008\/11\/02\/heidi-klum%E2%80%99s-hindu-halloween\">thoughftul blog<br \/>\npost about the bruhaha<\/a>, Sayantani Dasgupta tried to articulate why<br \/>\nKlum&#8217;s costume choice rubbed her the wrong way:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 10pt\" class=\"MsoNormal\"><i><span style=\"font-size: small;font-family: Calibri\">&#8230;I realize that my anger at Heidi&#8217;s choice of costume is not about religion as much as it is about racism.<span>&nbsp; <\/span>Kali<br \/>\nis a living goddess &#8211; living in the sense that she is actively<br \/>\nworshipped as a manifestation of the feminine force which can take life<br \/>\nas well as give it.<span>&nbsp; <\/span>Kali is living in that her symbolism<br \/>\n&#8211; whether as a goddess of ferocious destruction or of redemptive change<br \/>\n&#8211; is integrated into the culture of an entire subcontinent. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-size: small;font-family: Calibri\">Despite Heidi Klum&#8217;s obvious confusion, Kali is neither a plastic skeleton nor a dime store pirate.<span>&nbsp; <\/span>She is not a saucy serving wench nor a vixenish she-devil.<span>&nbsp; <\/span>By<br \/>\nturning a religious and cultural symbol into a freakish if dramatic<br \/>\nHalloween spectacle, Klum has enacted the most base sort of cultural<br \/>\nappropriation.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>As much as I&#8217;d love to see more integration on October 31, I can&#8217;t help but share Dasgupta&#8217;s concerns about <font>&#8220;<\/font><span style=\"font-size: small;font-family: Calibri\"><font>turning a religious and cultural symbol into a freakish spectacle.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><\/font><\/span>I&#8217;m still undecided about &#8220;Hindu-izing&#8221; Halloween. What do you think? <\/p>\n<p>Oh,<br \/>\nand in case you were wondering, my daughter will be dressed up as a<br \/>\nchubby little pumpkin for her first Halloween this year. Or maybe, just<br \/>\nmaybe, an Indian Princess. <br \/>&nbsp; <br \/><span style=\"font-size: small;font-family: Calibri\"><font><br \/><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Growing up, I always experienced Halloween as a clashing of cultures. More than any other American holiday, Halloween seemed to draw a line in the sand between the world that my Hindu immigrant parents resided in and the American suburban world around me. 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