{"id":27,"date":"2012-06-27T22:19:18","date_gmt":"2012-06-27T22:19:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/movingforwardwithvalorieburton\/?p=27"},"modified":"2012-06-27T22:19:18","modified_gmt":"2012-06-27T22:19:18","slug":"what-would-it-look-like-to-accept-what-is","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/movingforwardwithvalorieburton\/2012\/06\/27\/what-would-it-look-like-to-accept-what-is\/","title":{"rendered":"What would it look like to accept \u201cwhat is\u201d?"},"content":{"rendered":"

We can spend so much of our energy pushing uphill against what is<\/em>.\u00a0 You may wonder, \u201cWhat is \u2018what is\u2019?\u201d\u00a0 What is, is reality.\u00a0 It is the inevitable.\u00a0 It is the situation that you wish were not in existence.\u00a0 It is the fact that:\u00a0 You would prefer it if someone else was your boss … you wish that bad habit your spouse has would go away \u2026 your career is off track.\u00a0 It is the divorce you didn\u2019t want, the health challenge the burdens you, and the life that hasn\u2019t turned out quite the way you planned it.<\/p>\n

When you resist \u201cwhat is,\u201d you live in a state of denial.\u00a0 You focus your energy trying to control what is beyond your control.\u00a0 You spend countless days and hours focused on why it shouldn\u2019t be this way. Frustration takes over. Anger prevails. You may even hide reality to avoid facing it.\u00a0 Rather than letting people in on your disappointment, you keep it entirely to yourself.\u00a0 You may even set out to prove that \u201cwhat is\u201d really isn\u2019t.\u00a0 Rather than coming up with a plan to get your career back on track, you pretend to the world everything is fine. Instead of making the most of the life you have left, you spend most of your energy lamenting the fact that things are not where you believe they should be. Instead of accepting a loved one right where he is, you spend your energy trying to make him change.<\/p>\n

What if you stopped pushing against the inevitable and trust your ability to handle reality?\u00a0 What would you do differently then?\u00a0 When you make that shift, it feels like releasing a heavy burden from your shoulders.\u00a0 It feels authentic.\u00a0 And let me be clear:\u00a0 It feels scary.\u00a0 At first.\u00a0 But if you embrace reality \u2013 finally, truly embrace where you are right now \u2013 you can relax and begin to find the courage to confront your greatest fears.\u00a0 You can finally move forward.\u00a0 You can live authentically \u2013 not in denial or fear, but in acceptance and faith and love.<\/p>\n

My challenge to you:<\/p>\n

Embrace what is.<\/p>\n

Coach yourself:
\nWhat is your \u201cwhat is\u201d right now?\u00a0 What reality do you resist?\u00a0 What would it look like to accept what is?<\/p>\n

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Until next time\u2026<\/p>\n

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Valorie Burton is an author of seven books, including her\u00a0 latest,\u00a0 Successful Women Think Differently. She is founder of the Coaching\u00a0 and Positive\u00a0 Psychology (CaPP) Institute and a regular contributor for\u00a0 CNN\u2019s Reclaim Your\u00a0 Career segment. Subscribe to her free e-newsletter at <\/em><\/strong>www.valorieburton.com<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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