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I was recently asked to contribute to a Huff Po piece on\u00a07 Ways Introverts Handle Heartbreak Differently<\/a>\u00a0<\/em>by Brittany Wong. I found this article to be very helpful.<\/p>\n

The other contributors prompted me to think about my own divorce process and how my introverted tendencies (back then still not fully realized) affected the way I handled that process.<\/p>\n

I spoke of the need to withdraw and how meditation practice<\/a>, invaluable always, was especially crucial during that tumultuous time. In retrospect, I understand now why it took many years before I was ready to re-engage with relationship. This had more to do with my introversion than the failure of marriage.<\/p>\n

I, of course, remember how stressful the process was yet had forgotten how it was stressful in the ways that were heightened by introversion. After all the meetings, paperwork, and other matters of consequence, I was tapped out.<\/p>\n

It was a brilliant sunshine day in May when everything was finally resolved. I remember how good that silent warmth felt on my skin and the sense of renewal it intimated, the new road ahead, as it were.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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