{"id":178,"date":"2010-11-22T07:59:08","date_gmt":"2010-11-22T07:59:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/mindfulnessmatters\/2010\/11\/guardian-of-solitude.html"},"modified":"2010-11-22T07:59:08","modified_gmt":"2010-11-22T07:59:08","slug":"guardian-of-solitude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/mindfulnessmatters\/2010\/11\/guardian-of-solitude.html","title":{"rendered":"Metaphor Monday :: Guardian of Solitude"},"content":{"rendered":"

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My friend and fellow author, Laurel Saville, just wrote an interesting piece on solitude for Single Minded Women entitled Stay, Fetch, Lick: Love Me, Love My Dog. Literally<\/a><\/i>. <\/div>\n
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Her musings on gender-based perceptions of solitude got me thinking about one of my favorite quotes from Rilke that was the basis for my metaphor, The Guardianship of Solitude, in my book, Wild Chickens and Petty Tyrants: 108 Metaphors for Mindfulness<\/i>. <\/div>\n


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It is a question in marriage, to my feeling, not of creating
\na quick community of spirit by tearing down and destroying all boundaries, but
\nrather a good marriage is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his
\nsolitude and shows him this confidence, the greatest in his power to bestow. A togetherness
\nbetween two people is an impossibility, and where it seems, nevertheless, to
\nexist, it is a narrowing, a reciprocal agreement which robs either one party or
\nboth of his fullest freedom and development. But, once the realization is
\naccepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue
\nto exist, a wonderful living side by side can grow up, if they succeed in
\nloving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the
\nother whole and against a wide sky!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Laurel is a freelance writer and author of the powerful memoir, Postmortem<\/a><\/i> about her mother, Anne Ford.<\/p>\n

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          “<\/span>Sadly,
\nsome lives cannot be?understood until after death.”<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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So it was with Anne Ford. A successful, charming beauty
\nqueen, model, and fashion designer during the 1950s, this glamour girl about
\ntown was poisoned by internal demons and the permissive Southern California
\nculture of the 1960s and 70s. She ended her life as an alcoholic street person,
\nstabbed and strangled in a burned-out building in West Hollywood. Years later,
\nher daughter, the writer Laurel Saville, began the long process of unraveling
\nthe twin trajectories of this unusual life.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Postmortem takes the reader on an emotionally charged
\njourney that ranges from Saville’s eccentric West Hollywood childhood, to a
\ntop-secret, Depression-era airplane design. Whether describing the artists of
\nthe seminal Sunset Strip gallery where Andy Warhol got his start or the hippie
\nparties at the legendary Barney’s Beanery, Saville’s distinctive prose lends
\ninsight into the events and emotions that surrounded the life and death of
\nstunning Anne Ford. This candid exploration of one woman’s life and death ends
\nup exposing unexpected truths about both mother and daughter and unscrambling
\nthe many webs that entangled Ford’s exceptional life.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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