{"id":41,"date":"2010-12-21T22:07:05","date_gmt":"2010-12-21T22:07:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/medicinetomoveyou\/2010\/12\/find-two-friends-and-call-me-in-the-morning.html"},"modified":"2010-12-21T22:07:05","modified_gmt":"2010-12-21T22:07:05","slug":"find-two-friends-and-call-me-in-the-morning","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/medicinetomoveyou\/2010\/12\/find-two-friends-and-call-me-in-the-morning.html","title":{"rendered":"Find Two Friends and Call Me in the Morning"},"content":{"rendered":"

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It may come as no surprise that I consider myself a work in progress.  <\/span>I am the kind of friend that wants to hear criticism and thoroughly enjoys being critiqued by those who know me well.  <\/span>So naturally, during this busy time of the year, I’m working on something.  Right now, <\/span>I’m
\nfocusing on staying present and mindful as much as possible…..not just
\nho-hum ‘present and mindful’ but really PRESENT AND MINDFUL!  <\/span>I’m working on watching the rise and fall of emotions that occur throughout my day, week, etc.  <\/span>I’m
\ndoing this because I know that the more mindful I am, the better I am able to understand how stress runs my reactions, my relationships, my perspective… my life!  And since I’m human in today’s labyrinth of life …I’ve got
\nstress!<\/font><\/span><\/div>\n

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I had a bit of an epiphany recently that I wanted to share.  <\/span>We
\nwere visiting friends, you know the routine….our children play, we cook
\ndinner and catch up, a little laughter, watch the kid, put on a show
\nfor us, a little more laughter, talk about the fun we had throughout the
\nyear, followed by more laughter.  <\/span>On our way out, we hug goodnight and head home with our children fast asleep in their PJs.  <\/span>I suspect it’s like this for most families.,,really not that unusual as holiday behavior goes.<\/font><\/span><\/p>\n

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So, where’s the epiphany?  <\/span>It came on Sunday morning.  <\/span>The children were downright cheerful at breakfast still glowing from their previous night of fun.  <\/span>My husband was sharing a laugh with them too.  <\/span>I also felt happy, but it was so much more than that.  <\/span>I realized that during those 5 or 6 hours of fun, I was completely stress-free.  <\/span>No timetable to meet, no urgent issues to attend to, no thoughts about my never-ending to-do List…<\/span> just a window of time where life was held at bay while my mind hovered in fun and friendship.  <\/span>On a certain level, I think of it as ‘social<\/span> meditation<\/span>‘.  <\/span>During
\nthat window of time, I thought and spoke only positive thoughts,
\nlaughed until I had tears in my eyes and slowed down the pace of life.  <\/span>I suspect my whole family experienced this same feeling.<\/font><\/span><\/p>\n

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Who knows how many minutes I added to my life, and who cares really.  <\/span>In the end, I’ve come to realize that humans are social<\/span>
\ncreatures who, for whatever reason, wedge ourselves into such busy
\nschedules that we forget to relax and better manage our stress.  <\/span>In clinical practice, I’m hard pressed to think of a situation or condition where relaxation and reducing stress has not proven helpful.  <\/span><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n

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The research on meditation<\/span> and positive thinking is overwhelming.  <\/span>The challenge for most is adopting the habit and getting into a routine.  <\/span>After this weekend, I now consider my friendships to be high on my list of healing remedies.<\/font><\/span><\/p>\n

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Probably too much to write on a Thank You card, but I  wish you and your friends can share the richness of this healing at your next holiday get-together and every social gathering in the years to come!   <\/font><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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