{"id":945,"date":"2020-07-27T13:59:50","date_gmt":"2020-07-27T13:59:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=945"},"modified":"2020-07-27T13:59:50","modified_gmt":"2020-07-27T13:59:50","slug":"how-to-get-good-date-conversation-skills","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/07\/how-to-get-good-date-conversation-skills.html","title":{"rendered":"How to Get Good Date Conversation Skills"},"content":{"rendered":"

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What are the elements of a good date conversation?<\/p>\n

Unexpectedly, listening is key. There\u2019s so much braggadocio and socialization that goes into convincing guy they need to know how to impress women, when really that\u2019s a bunch of baloney. The most important piece of\u00a0dating advice for men\u00a0on how to make a good date conversation is to simply open their eyes, open their ears and listen.<\/p>\n

Listening gives you valuable information you can use to make a better judgment of the woman you\u2019re with, plus it gives her the freedom to Chase after you (instead of the other way around). When you engage in active listening, your peripheral vision expands, your senses awake and you really begin to take in and process everything that she\u2019s saying. Most guys get caught up in their own heads imagining how she\u2019ll look later in the bedroom. Not to say there\u2019s anything wrong with feelings a strong attraction to your date, in fact, that\u2019s great. The problem comes when guys willfully ignore their surroundings, including what she\u2019s saying, because they\u2019ve been smitten by how hot their date is and what they think they have to do in order to \u2018get in there.\u2019<\/p>\n

I recommend guys take a deep breath, step back, smile and engage in active listening. Instead of rambling off \u2018DHV stories\u2019 (a fancy term pickup artists use for a run-of-the-mill brag session), ask follow up questions about what she says. For example, if she says something along the lines of, \u201cI want to visit Europe again,\u201d that opens up a wide variety of questions to elicit new and useful information about her. Here\u2019s some follow up question examples:<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019ve been Europe before?\u201d
\n\u201cWhat were 3 things you liked about Europe?\u201d
\n\u201cWhere else have you travel?\u201d
\n\u201cWhat do you like about travel?\u201d
\n\u201cIf you could go anyway in the world, where would it be?\u201d<\/p>\n

In \u201cHow To Win Friends and Influence People,\u201d Dale Carnegie<\/a> tells the story of how he simply sat down and listened to a man he met for an entire evening, then when it was time to go, the guy that rambled on and on said to him, \u201cYou\u2019re such a great conversationalist!\u201d<\/p>\n

People, men and women, want to talk about themselves. When you practice some self control, shut your mouth and open your ears, amazing things happen.<\/p>\n

Of course, like with all our advice and any other dating advice for men out there, don\u2019t take our word for it. Get out there, start meeting more women and test everything. Spend a month going on dates where you\u2019re emphasizing your focus on listening. Spend another month going on dates making sure to ask numerous follow up questions to topics she raises. Compare the results of what happened on dates before making these changes and after. I am confident you\u2019ll find that, with this and the rest of the advice here at beliefnet.com<\/a>, your lived experiences will 99.9% of the time verify what we\u2019re saying. So get up, get out, meet more women, listen carefully to what they say, and be amazing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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