{"id":87,"date":"2018-06-19T10:41:15","date_gmt":"2018-06-19T10:41:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=87"},"modified":"2018-06-19T10:46:11","modified_gmt":"2018-06-19T10:46:11","slug":"6-ways-avoid-stage-five-clinger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2018\/06\/6-ways-avoid-stage-five-clinger.html","title":{"rendered":"6 Ways to Avoid Being a Stage Five Clinger"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-88 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2018\/06\/clinger-300x221.jpg\" alt=\"clinger\" width=\"300\" height=\"221\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Everyone wants to feel like they are a special part of someone else\u2019s life. Sharing inside jokes, getting flowers, or just having another person know all those little details about you that make you unique. However, when someone knows that you like to dance in your underwear before you go to bed not because you told them, but because they have set up a tree fort outside your window..it might be time to break ties.\u00a0 So we decided to share with you some ways to keep yourself from falling into that creeper, stalker, or stage five clinger zone.<\/p>\n<h3>6)\u00a0Don\u2019t try too hard!<\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s pretty obvious to most people when someone is trying\u00a0a little too hard. Try to let the conversation flow naturally and find things in common to talk about. Sure you might know that your crush is a fan of the show Mad Men, but unless you\u2019re a fan too, don\u2019t pretend that you watch it every week. It\u2019s inevitable that you\u2019ll say something about the show that is absolutely incorrect and you\u2019re cover will be blown.\u00a0 There\u2019s nothing worse than a wanna be\u2026or what we use to call a \u201cposer\u201d.<\/p>\n<h3>5)\u00a0Self-Deprecation is a no-no<\/h3>\n<p>Both men and women like to be approached with confidence. If you carry yourself well, people will be attracted to that energy. Constantly talking about your flaws will end up making them more noticeable.\u00a0 And the more noticeable your flaws are, the more creepier you become.\u00a0 However, when you start telling a person that they\u2019re the answer to all your problems, you\u2019ve now just crossed the line from creepy to psycho.<\/p>\n<h3>4)\u00a0Don\u2019t compare them to your ex<\/h3>\n<p>If you are not ready to\u00a0start over\u00a0after a break up then its best just to give yourself some space to heal. The last thing you want to do is chat someone up and compare everything they say to your ex.\u00a0 This is one of the easiest ways to scare any potential soul mate far far and farther away from you.\u00a0 Plus, you\u2019ll quickly put the \u201cdepressed,\u00a0 lonely, and wacko\u201d tag on yourself which is pretty hard to wash away.<\/p>\n<h3>3)\u00a0Sometimes no is the answer<\/h3>\n<p>Just because you bought her a drink DOES NOT mean that she owes you the rest of her night. A polite thank you is really all that etiquette demands of a gift from a stranger.\u00a0 If you start acting like a stubborn, attention demanding only child, you\u2019re going to get denied and possibly have that drink thrown in your face.\u00a0 Avoid being\u00a0<em>that<\/em>\u00a0guy at the bar.<\/p>\n<h3>2)\u00a0Don\u2019t use the force<\/h3>\n<p>Just like conversation should flow naturally, so should the casual touching that goes with having a conversation. Women are constantly told that all men everywhere are trying to put GHB in their drinks and lock them up in a basement where no one can hear you scream. So be aware of her personal space. Don\u2019t put your hands on her legs or push her through a crowd of people. If she likes you, she will let you know.<\/p>\n<h3>1)\u00a0Don\u2019t follow the them everywhere they go<\/h3>\n<p>If you go out the to chill with your buddies, its not fun to have some crazy lady\u00a0following you everywhere you go. After it happens 3 times, it is no longer a coincidence that you were standing outside the bathroom the moment he walks out. If you had a good talk with someone and want to see them again, then get their digits. If you can sense that they are trying to head someplace else then let them go, absence makes the heart grow fonder and you\u2019ll increase your chances of hearing from them again.\u00a0 Remember: there\u2019s a reason why all scary movies have a scene with someone jumping out from a corner\u2026it\u2019s freaky!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Everyone wants to feel like they are a special part of someone else\u2019s life. Sharing inside jokes, getting flowers, or just having another person know all those little details about you that make you unique. 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