{"id":802,"date":"2020-03-02T16:06:28","date_gmt":"2020-03-02T16:06:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=802"},"modified":"2020-03-02T16:06:28","modified_gmt":"2020-03-02T16:06:28","slug":"boost-your-relationship-do-this-1-thing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/03\/boost-your-relationship-do-this-1-thing.html","title":{"rendered":"Boost Your Relationship: Do this 1 Thing\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

There\u2019s one thing you can do today that will improve your\u00a0relationship<\/a>\u00a0almost instantly.\u00a0 It won\u2019t cost you anything more than a little thought and effort.<\/p>\n

The problem is, most couples forget to do this one thing for each other, and that\u2019s doing and saying things to boost each other\u2019s self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Doesn\u2019t sound that difficult in theory, but in practice\u2026 few couples are actively doing it!<\/p>\n

In this blog, I\u2019ll talk about the importance of self-esteem and then give you 3 tips for things you can do to start boosting your\u00a0partner\u2019s\u00a0self-esteem today.\u00a0 Then, hopefully they will remember to return the favor after you have paved the way.\u00a0 Please keep reading\u2026<\/p>\n

Why Self-Esteem Matters in Relationships<\/strong><\/h2>\n

You like to be around people who make you feel good, right?\u00a0 No one really wants to be around people who make them feel miserable about themselves.\u00a0 That would be masochistic, which generally speaking, isn\u2019t most people\u2019s thing.\u00a0 Usually, we don\u2019t stick around for long for poor treatment.<\/p>\n

A healthy sense of self-esteem contributes to having a healthy relationship.\u00a0 And no one is immune to wanting to feel good about themselves and their relationship.<\/p>\n

Women in particular define themselves by their relationships.\u00a0 If they don\u2019t feel good about themselves, that will have an impact on their relationship, which in turn will impact their sense of self-esteem, creating a dysfunctional cycle where feeling unsuccessful feeds upon itself.<\/p>\n

Men also enjoy boosts to their self-esteem<\/a>.\u00a0 While they don\u2019t define themselves by the success of their relationships, they do define themselves by their ability to work and provide for those they love\u2026 and they like to get acknowledgement for that.<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019re a man or a woman, giving your partner a boost to their self-esteem can result in a positive boost to your relationship.<\/p>\n

And how hard is it to do?\u00a0 Even if your relationship is currently in a really lousy place, surely you can find one good thing to say about your partner.\u00a0 It can be something as simple as saying they look nice today.<\/p>\n

Next, I will give you 3 tips that will help you formulate self-esteem boosting compliment<\/a>s.\u00a0 There are a few categories where anyone\u2014male or female\u2014would like to hear praise.<\/p>\n

Self-Esteem Booster #1: Compliment Sexual Performance<\/strong><\/h2>\n

I don\u2019t think there\u2019s anyone who doesn\u2019t want to hear about their prowess in bed.<\/p>\n

Think of what happens when we\u2019re told we\u2019re not good at something\u2026 we tend to hold back out of fear of not doing it right.<\/p>\n

So this one has a dual benefit: if you tell your partner what a great job they do in pleasing you, then they feel good about that ability and aren\u2019t as likely to hold back.\u00a0 Now, not only did your partner\u2019s self-esteem get a boost\u2026 your\u00a0sex\u00a0life just got one, too.<\/p>\n

Self-Esteem Booster #2: Compliment Abilities<\/strong><\/h2>\n

If your partner is good at something, whether it\u2019s fixing cars or baking perfect cakes or handling unruly kids\u2014say something.\u00a0 Let them know you notice their outstanding abilities.<\/p>\n

Everyone enjoys recognition for what they do well, but unfortunately, most people only seem to be capable of seeing what others do wrong.<\/p>\n

So think how refreshing it will be for your partner to know that you able to see what they can do right.<\/p>\n

Self-Esteem Booster #3: Compliment Efforts<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Does your partner ever go above and beyond to do something for you?<\/p>\n

You may not realize what efforts your partner is making that makes life a little bit nicer for you.\u00a0 A lot of people take those things for granted.<\/p>\n

Often, the reality check comes when you watch another couple in action or hear stories about what other partners don\u2019t do for each other\u2026 and that\u2019s when you need to tell your partner, \u201cI appreciate the effort you make when you do X\u201d and fill in the blank.<\/p>\n

My best to you in improving your relationship using self-esteem.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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