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Relationships<\/a>\u00a0in which a couple struggles to express their feelings as they\u2019re happening and work together to resolve them can create a lot of\u00a0anger.<\/p>\n

Anger that isn\u2019t checked can derail a relationship.\u00a0 It pushes people apart and leads to more licking of wounds than repairing the rift.<\/p>\n

Most people who have a lot of anger in their relationship would love to find a way to end the anger and feel good about being with their\u00a0partner<\/a>\u00a0again.\u00a0 Unfortunately, anger can become a very bad habit that\u2019s difficult to escape.<\/p>\n

In this blog, I\u2019ll tell you about what anger represents, and offer you 2 ways to manage the anger in your relationship.\u00a0 Please keep reading\u2026<\/p>\n

The Emotional Cauldron Known as\u00a0Anger<\/em><\/strong><\/h2>\n

When the hallmark of a relationship is its level of anger, there\u2019s a major problem\u2026 it\u2019s like having an industrial spill that everyone knows needs to be cleaned up but no one is going to go near it without proper equipment.<\/p>\n

Anger is an emotion that is very close to betrayal, and the reason why many people feel angry with their partner is because they feel betrayed in some way.<\/p>\n

For example, if your partner is inattentive to you, preferring to watch television all weekend and talking on the phone with friends and family, you may feel betrayed.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because your partner isn\u2019t ignoring the television or the people he is talking to you, but seemingly he is ignoring you.<\/p>\n

This may feel like a betrayal of your feelings and needs, and if you have a difficult time expressing this, it may churn into anger.<\/p>\n

Anger is like steam in a pot: if there\u2019s no venting of that built-up steam, it will lift the lid off the pot to vent itself\u2014and sometimes blow the lid right off.<\/p>\n

This is how the \u201csteam\u201d of anger can vent itself in your relationship:<\/p>\n