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We\u2019ve all heard of them, some of us have even have them.\u00a0Friends with benefits\u00a0(or FWB), they\u2019re the friends that you can have fun with physically and hang out with afterward without all the messy emotional attachment and commitment. Right ? Not so much. All though the idea seems great and harmless, the actual relationship may not stay that way for long. Here\u2019s a few tips to keep your FWB from becoming your enemy.<\/p>\n
Since this person is your friend as well as someone you\u2019re getting intimate with, honesty is the best policy. If you\u2019re seeing other people in addition to your FWB, tell them. They might feel betrayed or hurt if they find out you were sneaking around with others while you were hooking up with them. Not only be honest with them about your physical activity, but be honest about how you feel emotionally. If you don\u2019t feel emotionally attached to them, good\u2026 that\u2019s actually ideal. But if you begin having feelings for them, tell them before feelings get stronger and you get more attached than they are. That\u2019s when these type of relationships tend to fall apart and get really messy.<\/p>\n
There is one individual in your life that should ABSOLUTELY NEVER be a contender for the position of FWB and that person is your ex. Your ex is not your friend, they are your ex. So technically\u00a0they would be an EWB, and while the concept seems pleasing (you\u2019ve already slept with them, it\u2019s comfortable territory, etc.), think about how bad this situation could get. There\u2019s nothing holding the two of you together besides sex, so that means they can \u201clegally\u201d hang out with the person they cheated on you with at the same time. As FWB you have no power to be calling the shots. If someone in a past relationship is trying to start a FWB type of a thing, more likely than not that person is still emotionally attached\u2026and that is exactly the reason why you should run from this idea. Run very very far.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re about to go to the next level with someone you\u2019ve been friends with for awhile, really think hard before you do it. The truth is; sex changes everything, even the greatest friendships. It might be really awkward and something you regret doing.\u00a0 Be sure to talk about the pros and cons, and make sure this is something that would really benefit the both of you. As surprising as this may be, sex isn\u2019t the most important thing in the world, in fact I\u2019m pretty sure friendship trumps it\u2026 well for some people. So make sure you consider this: are a few great (or not so great) sack sessions worth the loss of countless laughs and great conversations?<\/p>\n
Remember that your FWB is first and foremost your friend, so making them feel like they\u2019re only useful for one thing (*cough* sex *cough*) is only going to lead to problems.\u00a0 Maintaining a platonic relationship with someone you\u2019re getting hot and heavy with but not calling your boyfriend or girlfriend can get sticky, so respect their feelings and just make sure not to make them feel like a piece of ass.<\/p>\n
If your\u00a0FWB wants to cut off the sex\u00a0for any reason, or tells you that they want to move to the next level, don\u2019t flip out if it\u2019s not what you want to hear. Instead, be calm, respect their feelings and accept that all good things must come to an end. Maybe ask for one last pillow kissing session and be done with it. Fighting and throwing a fit isn\u2019t worth it, move on and find a new FWB if that\u2019s what you want.<\/p>\n
The reason your FWB is fooling around with you is probably in part to avoid the drama and stipulations of a relationship. If you\u2019re trying to lay down the law, i.e. tell them where they can\/can\u2019t go, who they can\/can\u2019t hang out with, or are constantly bugging them, you\u2019re basically\u00a0defeating the purpose of an FWB. FWB\u2019s are supposed to be the chill and relaxed way to get what you want out of a relationship, aka sex, with someone you really dig. If you\u2019re constantly blowing up their phone and stressing about what they\u2019re doing maybe it\u2019s time you find someone who want\u2019s what you want: a committed relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
We\u2019ve all heard of them, some of us have even have them.\u00a0Friends with benefits\u00a0(or FWB), they\u2019re the friends that you can have fun with physically and hang out with afterward without all the messy emotional attachment and commitment. Right ? Not so much. All though the idea seems great and harmless, the actual relationship may…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":620,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[20,27],"class_list":["post-72","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-friends","tag-fwb"],"yoast_head":"\n