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You and your significant other just broke up, you\u2019ve cried your tears, made voodoo dolls resembling them and destroyed all the old photos. Or maybe the two of you were the lucky exception and ended on good terms. Either way, now it comes time to move on with your life.. but\u00a0how long should you wait before you start dating again?<\/p>\n

Well, there\u2019s two ways of approaching this question. On one end you might think the longer you wait the better, just to ensure that nobody\u2019s feelings get hurt. On the way opposite side of the spectrum you may be more encouraged to follow the old, wise proverb passed down from your mom (or probably not) \u201cthe best way to get over someone is to get under somebody else.\u201d Either way, the following tips might give you some perspective on how to move from one to the next in a mature manner.<\/p>\n

Do: Have Respect For Your Ex<\/strong><\/h2>\n

This rule especially applies if you were the one who broke things off. You need to realize that your ex may be going through a rougher time than you are and you should take their feelings into consideration.\u00a0 If you are ready to move on, keep it on the DL. If the two of you still\u00a0keep in touch\u00a0don\u2019t be sneaky or lie, just don\u2019t rub it in their face.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t: Date For The Wrong Reasons<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Your ex moving on before you is not a good reason to start dating. Neither is dating someone who keeps asking you out because you feel guilty. Dating for the wrong reasons will only cause more problems. Everyone\u2019s situation is different but you\u2019ll be able to tell what\u2019s right and what\u2019s wrong for your specific case.\u00a0 Get back to following your instincts\u2026they\u2019re usually right.<\/p>\n

Do: Take Some Time<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Regardless if you are over your ex right away, you still don\u2019t want to jump right into another relationship. Give yourself a couple of weeks to be independent and on your own before you get seriously involved with somebody else. Taking some time to hang out with your friends and focus on\u00a0 some \u201cme\u201d-time won\u2019t kill you and will actually be pretty rejuvenating.\u00a0 Sometimes learning who you are again can help you find an even better love as the last.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t: Create Drama<\/strong><\/h2>\n

When you\u2019re ready to move on and start seeing other people, you\u2019ll know it. If you\u2019re not, that doesn\u2019t mean that your ex isn\u2019t either.\u00a0 If your ex does move on before you, don\u2019t throw a fit. Act mature, avoid bashing your ex and their new beau on Facebook, and\/or spreading nasty rumors to mutual friends.\u00a0 It will only prolong the moving on process for yourself. Even if you ended on good terms don\u2019t try running into your ex or continuously trying to talk to them if they want space. Getting out of a relationship is an excuse to cut out some of the drama in your life, don\u2019t look for ways to create more.<\/p>\n

Do: Wait Until You\u2019re Actually Over Your Ex<\/strong><\/h2>\n

This is the most crucial rule of them all. The most important thing to follow\u2013 as corny as it sounds\u2013 is your heart. When you\u2019re ready to start dating again, you\u2019ll know it. Make sure you\u2019re over your ex first and foremost, because not only would you be hurting the person you start dating, but you\u2019ll hurt yourself if you\u2019re really not over the ex yet. It\u2019s not something you can rush, when you meet the right person, you\u2019ll know it, and at that point I\u2019d say it\u2019s safe to\u00a0move on.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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