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Friends should be warm, supportive, and fun to be with, right? Uhm\u2026ideally. There are some \u201cfriends\u201d who seem to make you feel miserable and guilty, or cut you down with sarcastic or insulting comments and then laugh it off. These are very toxic relationships, and it may make us wonder why we bother even hanging out with them.<\/p>\n
While some \u201cfrenemies\u201d should just be ditched, there are those that can be saved by a good heart-to-heart or the ability to handle their remarks. Read this article for tips.<\/p>\n
It seems like this friend has the gift for zeroing in on the 10 pounds you just gained or how your new haircut makes your ears look bigger. When you look hurt, she\u2019ll say, \u201cJust being honest!\u201d But this kind of criticism can be hurtful, especially if it is said in an insensitive way, or stems from envy and insecurity. She doesn\u2019t want you to be better, she wants to make herself feel better!<\/p>\n
The best way to handle this is to ask, \u201cWhy are you telling me this?\u201d so that the conversation refocuses on your friend\u2019s intentions and motives.<\/p>\n
She is always running to you with problems and expecting you to drop everything while you hold her hand. This kind of relationship is very emotionally draining and demanding\u2014especially since she\u2019s usually so engrossed in her own dramas that she never supports you when you need her.<\/p>\n
The only way to handle a drama queen is to draw personal boundaries. If you\u2019re not in the mood to talk, say, \u201cI\u2019d love to chat, but I really need to finish this report right now or I\u2019ll be dead tomorrow morning. Can we talk at (name convenient time and place)?\u201d You\u2019re not shutting her out but you\u2019re protecting your personal priorities and needs. Also encourage her to develop other friendships so that she doesn\u2019t just rely on you to for help.<\/p>\n
You could be named Time Person of the Year and this person would still find a way to do something better\u2014or make you feel that what you got was no big deal. Her life is always bigger, better and more glamorous, and you end up feeling like an underachiever. Over time, you may even develop\u00a0a fear of failure,because you\u2019re constantly trying to match her impossible standards.<\/p>\n
Try making her feel aware of how her competitiveness is affecting you. You can talk to her directly, or try telling her, \u201cYeah, I guess you are so much better at things than I am,\u201d then sigh. If she\u2019s actually nice but isn\u2019t aware of her actions, she\u2019ll apologize. If she doesn\u2019t then you know that she\u2019s just after a sidekick. Ditch her now.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Friends should be warm, supportive, and fun to be with, right? Uhm\u2026ideally. There are some \u201cfriends\u201d who seem to make you feel miserable and guilty, or cut you down with sarcastic or insulting comments and then laugh it off. These are very toxic relationships, and it may make us wonder why we bother even hanging…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":620,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-662","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n