{"id":611,"date":"2019-09-16T15:15:25","date_gmt":"2019-09-16T15:15:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=611"},"modified":"2019-09-23T18:12:30","modified_gmt":"2019-09-23T18:12:30","slug":"secrets-satisfying-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2019\/09\/secrets-satisfying-relationship.html","title":{"rendered":"Secrets for a More Satisfying Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

None of us are perfect, no matter how much self-improvement reading or therapizing we do or don\u2019t do, but there are a few simple changes you can make that will take your relationships to a new level\u2026 friendships, dating and marriage.<\/p>\n

1.Observe the Golden Rule and be\u00a0the kind of person you want to attract.<\/h2>\n

Think about it from the quality person\u2019s POV\u2026 why would they want to \u201crehab\u201d or \u201cinspire\u201d someone into being the kind of person that the quality person became on their own steam? In order to respect the other person, the quality person needs to be with someone they chose to respect in the first place.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Stop taking everything so personally.<\/h2>\n

Most of the time, its really not all about you. If he makes a comment about mothers being a pain, he isn\u2019t necessarily talking about your mom. If she talks about having had a bad date at the place you are eating, she isn\u2019t necessarily talking about the date she is on at the moment. If someone means to be personal, its their responsibility<\/a> to let you know that they are talking about you. Otherwise, breathe, let it go and continue to enjoy your time together.<\/p>\n

Note: If you are dealing with a passive aggressive type, simply asking them: \u201cAre you talking about me?\u201d Can stop the commentary in its tracks. If they say \u201cNo,\u201d drop it and move on. Its their responsibility to be a grown up and tell you if there is a problem.<\/em><\/p>\n

3.Serve the other person in love without expectation of return.<\/h2>\n

By keeping tally of who\u2019s done what for whom and counting every ounce of effort you expend on their behalf, you reduce a complex and beautiful relationship between two people to a game of who sunk my battleship. Its important that there is a give and take dynamic, but you\u2019ll be surprised by how quickly things change when you cut the strings and forget about expectations. Not only will you enjoy giving, you\u2019ll likely feel more loved in return.<\/p>\n

4. If you\u2019ve picked a good person to be with (because you are a good person to be with,)\u00a0trust that your friend or partner has good intentions at heart and not plans to do you harm.<\/strong>\u00a0If you get offended<\/a> by something they say, see point #2. If it was a personal attack directed at you, simply let them know what they said hurt your feelings. Most people don\u2019t want to hurt or harm the person they care about, but we all have different filters and sometimes what we say just doesn\u2019t come out right.<\/p>\n

Note: emails and texts are notorious for misunderstandings. Better by far to either ask if someone meant something the way you took it or know that what they wrote just didn\u2019t come out the way they intended than start nursing a grudge.<\/em><\/p>\n

5.Remember to have fun together.<\/h2>\n

If your relationship becomes a string of long DTR\u2019s (Define the Relationship talk), hurt feelings, \u201cdiscussions,\u201d and general malcontent\u2026 you\u2019ll come to hate each other more quickly than you fell in love. If you are in a relationship<\/a> with someone you care about, nurture that love by honoring your time and communication. Unless you both like vegging out every night in front of the TV, take time away to do something fun together that you both enjoy.<\/p>\n

You may not read these and think \u201csimple\u201d changes, but the whole \u201cbaby steps\u201d concept really helps. Little changes tend to snowball in a really great way. Have any of you applied these kind of changes to your thinking in the past? How did it change your relationships?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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